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05.27.08, 16:29 PM General Topics
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WWYD: My girlfriend suffered a traumatic brain injury and has become a nasty, mean spirited, and sometimes violent person. Her husband left her and has full custody of the dc. I feel terrible for her and want to help/support her. But she is so awful! I just can't spend time with her anymore! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 04:29 PM Flag
 

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I would try to remember that it's the injury and not her. My grandmother has alzheimers and she gets so nasty. I know that it's not her but the disease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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is she in any sort of treatment or therapy? is this maybe temporary? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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She was in a rehab hospital for almost a year, and is now in many forms of treatment (PT, OT, Speech Therapy, Psychotherapy, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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jesus. does she want to be around people do you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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She calls and wants to make plans pretty often [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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i'd keep those visits brief [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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she won't ever be the same as she was. if you don't like who she is and you weren't in a committed relationship, maybe you need to move on. she was married when you started seeing her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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I think she means "girlfriend" in the friend way, not the lover way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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I mean girlfriend as in a female friend. There is no romantic connection between us. But yes, she was married to her now ex-husband when we met. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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How can you be certain of this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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No worries. Britney will find another boyfriend lickety split. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I know someone like this. Sorry but you need to be her friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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Not sure it ever improves with time. I don't blame her dh though as our family knows someone like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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She was violent with the dc. He had no choice but to divorce her and take dc away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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That's frightening. So the divorce is final? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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Yes. Divorce is final. Visitation to be reviewed twice a year, so if she improves she may be allowed to see her dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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My parents were injured in a car accident and my father had emergency neurosurgery. Now, almost 2 years later, he is okay -- but he'll never be the "same". The circumstances are different (his injury wasn't classified as "traumatic brain injury"), but as he recovered, there were several episodes like this (he was disoriented, agressive, nasty, lost language function). I don't have advice, just sympathy -- I can imagine (to a degree) what it must be like for you. In your case, I'd limit the time that I spent with her (duration and frequency) and remind myself over and over that it's not her, it's the injury. Hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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