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05.27.08, 15:27 PM General Topics
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What would you do if your 17 year old son had sex in your vacationing neighbor's bed a dozen times and left the used condoms there? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 03:27 PM Flag
 

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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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LOL! I'm with you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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np - that is a good answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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tell him to dispose of his condoms correctly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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how did he get access to your neighbor's house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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spare keys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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so he broke into their house, used their bed and didn't even have the concern/decency/fear to clean up? yuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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np he is 17. Sounds pretty typical IMHO. Not to say he shouldn't be punished but he sounds normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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At 17 I would've been scared of my parents finding out that I'd had sex. I wouldn't have used the neighbor's house and not bothered to clean up. Well, maybe a quickie on their sofa, but not their bedroom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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I'd like to say the same but I once had sex in a classroom in college and we left the....um.....evidence behind for the next day's 8:00 class to find. Kids do stupid things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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he sounds like a disrespectful twit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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I'd make him write a letter apologizing to the neighbor. I would also ground him - no cell phone, TV, video games, computer for non-school work or other privileges. I'd probably make him volunteer somewhere as well for 20 hrs to give him a better appreciation for the community he lives in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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that won't give him "appreciation" for the community and, as a non-profit coordinator, we generally don't want to be loaded down with teenagers dumped on us by concerned parents. volunteering is great if you have useful skills to offer and a true interest in the work, not if you're sent against your will to build character [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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np that may be true but can't someplace like habitat for humanity use pretty much any unskilled labor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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Habitat for Humanity is actually pretty competitive and many sites are booked months in advance by dedicated, engaged volunteers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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really? I had no idea. But still, seems like there would be places for this kind of thing. Although I must say I am a little conflicted about using volunteerism as a punishment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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My friend is actually going to New Orleans to do Habitat for Humanity work and it is cut throat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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wow. Well that is a good thing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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I don't really see how volunteering at an animal shelter (clean up there), for example, requires useful skills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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Conveniently, I've worked in animal rescue and unwilling volunteers aren't any more welcome there than anywhere else. Someone has to supervise and train volunteers, even for "menial" labour, and dealing with people who don't really want to be there and people who are only going to be there for 20 hours is just annoying and not really worth it. Our organizations exist for a huge number of reasons, but we're not here to cooperate in you punishing your kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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lol, good point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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and sometimes parents dump their kids on you and the kids are actually willing to help and and want to be productive and you treat them like criminals. i know this from personal experience. ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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Sorry that's been your experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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Sounds good. This can be a learning experience as to what is considered respectful behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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Ask the neighbors what you can do to make things right. A new bed would be nice but maybe they will feel that is too extreme. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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Even if they say that is too extreme, it isn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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np. But don't buy them a new bed if they say they don't want it. That could be very uncomfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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just give money in that case. tell them to spend it on whatever will make them feel less like their bedroom sanctuary was violated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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I would feel so creepy having my neighbor give me $2K or whatever because his teenager acted, well, like a teenager. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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$2K??? Where the eff do you buy your mattresses? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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Many mattresses cost that much - we can't assume the neighbor has a $600 mattress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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LOL! Not in my world! I think we paid $600 for ours and that seemed like a huge amount! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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mattresses are petroleum based - they have gone up in price with oil unfortunately [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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petroleum based? I think most everything is going up b/c of transportation costs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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That's nice, but surely you realize that many people spend more? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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I guess so. Seems like a lot of $$ though. There are places to get cheaper ones [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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Yeah, but if you're paying to replace someone else's mattress you can't give them $600 if that doesn't cover the cost of replacement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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we bought a new king last summer for over $3K - I guess you don't mind a crappy one, but high quality costs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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NP: New bedding, too, I'd guess. Especially if they have a nice down comforter and decent linens, it can get pretty expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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I'd ask him why he thinks what he did was wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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then put him in timeout for 17 minutes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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are e still talking about this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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It's about respect. He needs to learn that what he did was very wrong. Also, assuming 17yo have sex and there is no stopping that, maybe he is not used to picking up after himself. Does he clean up at your house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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He should help the neighbor rake leaves, weed, whatever for a set period of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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I might literally kill him. That is nasty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Buy them a new bed and make your son pay a share. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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I don't know about all the ORs screaming for a new bed, I mean, wtf? he had sex in it, he didn't smear feces all over it. He can go clean up the mess, buy a new bed set (sheets, pillows, blankets I mean) and apaologize profusely for being a dolt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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Make him buy them new bedding. (I think a new bed is absurd.) And twelve Friday/Saturday nights volunteering in a homeless shelter. Teach him to respect what having a home means. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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