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05.26.08, 10:56 AM General Topics
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Feeling bad. I have a 4 1/2 yo and a 2 1/2 yo and they both drive me crazy, even when they're not doing anything particularly bad. I find that my patience is always thin and I can snap at the smallest thing. And I hate myself for it but I can't seem to stop. Maybe it's because they're both in semi-difficult phases at the moment and I don't do well when my world is a little bit rocked. But still. Anyone BTDT? FWIW, I have some help and they are in school PT so it's not like it's all me 24/7. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.26.08, 10:56 AM Flag
 

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are you stressed in other aspects of your life? or is it just with respect to your dc that you are snappy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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From what I can tell, it's only my DCs (and occasionally DH but generally not) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I feel like I am so uncreative with them, you know? I feel like they already watch too much TV and therefore it shows how little oomph I have. DH is very good with them, always taking them outside to plant things, work in the yard, just be goofy. But with me we're either crashed inside or on the move, running errands just to be out of the house. I can't just BE with them, or relax. And I can't figure out why. It's like sometimes I can't wait for the day to end or for them to grow up. And then the fact that I feel that way makes me feel bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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you sound like you are in a rut. try some new ways of communicating with them and being with them. ask dh for ideas. or read some books or try therapy. I have seen parents have personality clashes with their kids...they are too much alike or too diferent to relate, but you can snap out of it if you are aware and try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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It's a lot easier to do stuff with one than with two. Take some of the time you have help, and unload one of the kids. Go out and do something with the other. The 4-year-old is big enough to tag along on stuff *you* like to do, so plan on some of that. Museums? Shopping? Lunch at a restaurant? Wandering through the park? Something that's about you that you can share with the kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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They are tough ages to really do stuff, even playing board games is almost impossible at this age. You can try painting--get a big piece of paper and have them trace their bodies and then paint, etc. Making brownies is always good too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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couple of ideas. some for dcs and some for you, to get you out of the rut. for dcs, you can get some books of stickers (ac moore has them for $1), some sidewalk chalk. get fingerpaints or those color with water books. get a package of balloons. these are all cheap and small things. you can put them in a drawer somewhere and whenever you see dcs getting antsy, you can just go to the drawer, pull something out, and it's a great diversion. the next thing i'll suggest is just something that worked for me, i don't know if it'd work for you. i started getting out with dcs relatively early. no tv in the morning. they can play, get dressed, eat, read books, etc. Then we go outside, burn a lot of energy, maybe make a trip to a variety store or a deli to buy a drink or a florist to pick a flower. then we come home and they are happy to play inside, eat lunch, nap, chill, etc. we only watch tv in the late afternoons. and then we can go outside again for a short period. i find that the alternating in and out of the house is better. and getting out earlier is better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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are you a sahm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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