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05.25.08, 18:19 PM NY Schools
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My reading poll is bumming me out. I'm the mom of the 99G&T boy who has no interest in learning to read, although he loves being read to and looking at books. Worried that if we go to a citywide G&T that he'll be far behind his peers. Anyone know any kids who went into Anderson or NEST K as non-readers? If so, how did they fare? TIA! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
NY Schools 05.25.08, 06:19 PM Flag
 

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He will be fine. FWIW, I went to Hunter and I did not start reading until mid-1st grade. Most important that he loves books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! I don't think I started reading until 1st grade, either, and I've been an avid reader since I learned. Hope he'll be the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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I'm sure many will be non-readers and moms of reader dc's worry that their kids will be bored while other kids learn the sound of each letter. Your dc will be fine and will learn to read in due time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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Thanks. He does know the sounds, just can't decode. Knows a handful of sight words, but that's it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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you really sound like an anxious, clingy freak. where do you women come from? you really need to get a grip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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OP: well, you've got me pretty much pegged. But when schools like NEST say they expect dcs to all be reading by the end of K, I worry about whether my dc will feel too pressured. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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they all read by the end of K. most do not at the beginning of K however. we are at anderson, and also have friends at privates, Hunter, ps9 G&T and ps166 G&T. all of the kids read by the end of the year save a few. almost none read at the beginning more than bob books ( maybe 1-2 exceptions). it all means very little and you need to relax [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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You sound like an insecure freak yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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nope. a secure freak. just hate how all of you are humoring this woman, instead of kicking her in the seat and straightening her out. she needs to get a grip, and apparently so do you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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there's no need to be a complete bitch to do that. you can do that nicely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you. I'm sure I'm not the only person who sometimes worries about stuff like this. I really don't get why OR feels the need to be so hostile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Maybe she is the only one who has to work tomorrow and is pissed about it. Don't mind her. And your dc is a smart cookie and he will read when he's in school. No need to worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I am hostile because I dislike insecure mothers who are overly invested in their dcs' specialness. I am surrounded by this type, and you know what? very few of the kids are all that special. its just a fact. you need to get a life outside of your dc's abilities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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op: I will freely admit to being insecure, but not to being overly invested in my ds's abilities. He's great at some things and not so much at others. It's a mixed bag. I would understand your hostility more if i was bragging about him reading at a 5th grade level or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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you know what, fuck you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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back at ya! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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np; i am with you. that woman is just a witch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I agree with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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with the lady who hates whiny insecure women, or the whiny one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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I agree that the OP is just making too much about her dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 09:13 PM Flag
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ditto. she is annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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BTW, if he likes computer games, he might like www.starfall.com which is phonics game with interactive cartoon characters that move if he clicks on them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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np: looked at it, seems more like a website for 2 yos. the average 4-5 yo would find that seriously wanting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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nnp: I agree. couldn't interest my dc after playing other computer games. its pretty lame [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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OP: ita. We've tried it, and ds was bored to death. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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nnnp: ditto. can't imagine a 4 yo sitting through a session of starfall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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They designed for kids who are learning to read which means most kids in 4 or 5 yos. Most 2 or 3yos don't start to read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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well, they need to step up the pace and appeal of the website then, since most 4-5 yos get a bigger kick out of nick.com, and cannot be engaged by the slower websites that seem to be made for very young dcs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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if a kid wants to learn, he might like it. You must have a very advanced 2yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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all the kids I know at anderson did not read upon entering the class this year. many still don't. you need to relax. I have a 99 too. brilliant kid. never doubted him intellectually. when he got in the school, he began reading and jumped several years forward. I knew that would happen, because I know his abilities and usual pattern. I think people with 99 kids who are not that apparently smart always worry that the kid won't cut mustard. usually those kids are not the stars. btdt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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op: Thanks. I do need to relax, but I do think my ds is apparently smart, just not interested in reading at the moment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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np: do you really think your kid will never larn to read? all the kids do, unless they are LD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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of course I know he will read when he's ready, and I'm not pushing it. Just concerned about the G&T curriculum and whether they expect the kids to be reading coming into K or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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you really don't know the answer to this? you really think they are all reading and only your dc will not read? the only outlier? you really need some perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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OP, ignore this troll. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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My 99 Hunter child did not start reading at all until summer after K --and was barely doing so at that point. By end of the school year she was reading at 3rd grade level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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i went to an ivy league school and i didn't read until i was about 6 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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but this is irrelevant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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my point is, it doesn't matter... it's all good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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my dc got a 97 on the erbs, couldn't read before K, had no interest in learning to read. He is in a district G&T and is reading at the 'top' level in his class (now in 1st grade). He can read now (learned in K) but still HATES it. I make him read 20 mins a night and it's a struggle every night. I don't enjoy reading so maybe it's genetic. I turned out just fine. I think the obsession with reading (being able to and then doing a lot of it) as an indicator of intelligence is completely over the top. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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Not completely. My dd reads out of deep curiousity. If a child isn't that curious how intelligent can he be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Have you read the Helicopter Mom blog http://www.goodcityliving.com/? You may want to get you ds to start reading.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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The problem there was that her child was not reading well after K--not before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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Her child had issues that were not typical of the rest of the class. The vast majority of that class did just fine without any intervention, and she is wrong when she said all the other kids were tutored. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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She said she asked everyone in the class and they all said they supplemented at home! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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Yes, she asked, but she is not reporting the answers accurately. Of course we all did casual stuff, like playing with plastic letters on the refrigerator. But no, most of us did not do any explicit phonics or tutoring or drilling at home at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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I guess she didn't do those things... maybe she took her downtown, hands off approach to the extreme... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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I don't know, but her child had some behavioral and social issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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You do realize that early reading is not an indication of intelligence or school success. (Math is more strongly correlated). Lots of parents push their kids to read early and that can backfire. Just keep reading to him that is the best you can do. FWIW, I knew how to rad before entering K, my sister did not - not until 1. She has a much higher IQ than I. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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^^^^ read, obviously I never learned to spell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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