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05.25.08, 16:25 PM General Topics
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just need to vent. i feel horribly guilty. My DD is healthy and all that good stuff. But she is SO hard to deal with right now. 13 months old. Throws a tantrum five times a day. Over the tiniest thing. Won't eat anything but cheese and bread. throws everything else. fights when its time to get in car seat. fights at bathtime. fights when its time to get OUT of the bath. every. thing. is. a. fight. It is draining me. Today, I found myself thinking, I really don't like this girl today. then I felt horrible. and still do. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.25.08, 04:25 PM Flag
 

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Hmmm....13 mo is early for that kind of difficult stuff. My 12 mo is challenging--doesn't nap well, still doesn't reliably sleep through the night--but she doesn't fight about everything. Do you have anything to make mealtimes, bath times, more fun? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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OP: I'm trying. If I only allow her to eat a grilled cheese for bkfst, lunch, dinner, she'd be fine at mealtimes. If I let her stay in the bath for three hours, she'd be fine....et al. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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Is she possibly allergic to foods and cranky from that? Maybe her stomach always hurts. Maybe she's hungry,etc. Can you have her tested for allergies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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Don't feel bad. We all go through this at one time or another. My 15 mo was like this for a bit and I kept having fantasies about running away. Dc #1 was sooooo easy when little, but now at 4 yo is very difficult. All of sudden your dd will get through this phase and be fine, and then there will be another difficult one in a few weeks. That's what parenting is all about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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^^^BTW, I am CONVINCED this happens when they are acquiring a new skill (like walking or talking). Their frustration threshold is very low. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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OP: you may totally be on to something here. She JUST started walking last week. And she's been this way ever since. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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when my 20mo became really difficult out of nowhere, i realized after the fact it was due to her molars coming in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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also--it is TOTALLY fine for you to indulge her eating habits when she's going through a hard time imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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OP: thanks. I do, mostly. But I always feel like I should try to slip in something like a fruit or veggie. But then she wigs out and we're both upset with each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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omg, this is my son, it gets better I PROMISE. He's 2 now and so much better now that he can talk and tell me what he wants [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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OP: bless you for posting this. Hope you're right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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It really will get better. Yes, his tantrums are still intense, it is his personality, but he is so much sweeter and easier. He still has very limited diet but we work on it a lot. Good luck, I know how hard it is, we couldn't take him anywhere, ever! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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my dc was pretty darned difficult (so I felt just like you), and still can be-it is her personality and she gets alot of it from me so I can say that-but she has mellowed and become a joy as she has gotten older. We laugh at her all the time b/she is so "definate" and can seem cranky or ornery, but she is so focused and well-behaved in her own way and also has become v. social which surprised us. Starting school at 3 was a huge turning point for her-she just loved having somewhere to focus her willfullness and to succeed at something and she seemed so much happier. We thought at 1 that she was just going to be such a miserable child based on her behavior then, but she is far from it. Personalities develop over time, so don't give up hope! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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On my 3rd child now.... and i have to say that i actually enjoy the tantrums and the fits. since the other two are older and i am not planning on having a 3rd, it puts everythign into perspective. if you can spin the tantrum, your dd will develop great character. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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