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05.25.08, 07:40 AM Newborn
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i feel like we're drowning with 2.5yo and 10 day old. 2.5yo is acting up (tantrums, attention seeking stuff like hitting and yelling) and nb wakes up a lot at night (not that this is unusual) and combined together, we are really short tempered and exhausted. any advice from btdt? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 05.25.08, 07:40 AM Flag
 

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there's not a lot you can do, this is a really tough stage. can you spend a little extra time with the 2yo? he/she really needs the attention now. or have your dh or friends take him out while you rest. sorry, I've btdt, you just have to ride it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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it's pretty hard to spend extra time with 2yo but i am giving her one on one time whenever baby is sleeping. ironically when nb is sleeping, she's calm, it's when when nb is up that she's really freaky. of course, that's understandable but frustrating nevertheless. we do have a sitter 3 mornings a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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I have 2dc 21 months apart eldest now 2.5yo and he was (and still is on occasion) exactly the same as your toddler. We found it really helped him if we kept him involved with everything so he didn't feel neglected. We give him jobs like fetching diapers, wipes and we encourage very closely supervised physical contact between them ie gentle pats on the head. It started getting easier when the newborn started smiling as he became more interesting to the toddler. I still don't get any sleep but it's getting better. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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thanks for sharing. we do keep her involved and even let her hold db - she's very gentle and sweet with db. it's us that she's acting out at. she is more mad at us than the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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of course she is mad at you. My oldest (12yo) is still annoyed at having younger siblings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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That is a very good thing. My toddler is rough with the baby and keeping them apart is my main challenge. It will get easier for you. My two have started playing together for short periods and it's just wonderful to see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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OK-we had almost exact situation and this is what I did...left nb at home every morning for a week and took 3 yo to starbucks for girl time...we sat around and talked about how great it was that we had Maria at home so we could leave baby at home and get out (she was also being mean to our nanny) --she would say "yes, we're grown up and can go out together and baby has to stay home and nap" --obviously, i had the help to allow this but after one week everything fixed itself and she has been great since..loving her little brother and very well behaved. You and dh have got to work together to help with newborn and let the other completely focus on the older outside of the house making her feel special. As for the totally exhausted thing, we're finally well rested at 7 months! Unfortunately, there is not a fix for that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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