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05.24.08, 19:41 PM General Topics
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So I'm following up from yesterday. I'm the mom who had the affair a year 1/2 ago. Husband and I talked last night. Very emotional but I kept stressing that it was over and it wasn't about sex, but about emotional disconnect that we were having. We were both calm, thank God. I thought we got somewhere, but he still said he needed to think about giving me another chance. I told him how much I missed him and wanted him back but I wouldn't push him because he said he needs his time but he misses his life. As I was leaving to go sleep downstairs, he grabbed me, we hugged, cried, kissed and one thing led to another...yada ,yada, yada. Anyway, not that I expected everything to be fixed overnight, but today was like last night never happened. He barely spoke or looked at me. I felt terrible. Granted, I understand. But I'm so nervous. Any thoughts? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.24.08, 07:41 PM Flag
 

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what was it like today? Do you live together or apart? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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Today he was so distant. Took our kids out for the day but then left tonight to go to his friends house. He's supposed to be renting an apt for 6 months starting the beginning of June. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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How old are dc? so you've been living together up until now? When did all of this happen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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4 yr old and 4 month old. We've been living together until now. THe affair happened 1 year and a half ago. He just found out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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Sounds like he loves you but can't process everything right now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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OK, one step at a time. I'm glad you spoke and were able to do so calmly. Give him time - sounds like he wants it to work, but he still needs time to process the whole thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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So you think this sounds positive? I'm so in love with him and I want my family back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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2 steps forward, 1 step back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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So you had an affair because you and your dh were emotionally disconnected... Does he understand the connection between your disconnect from him and your affair? Are you two taking steps to deal with the disconnect? This dh thinks it would be wise for the two of you to explore how to be more connected. My dw and I have had similar problems (no affairs, just a disconnect) and we ended up scheduling a few quiet emotional talks each week. It helps with her sense of connection with me and that makes her happy. I end up feeling connected to her because she's more loving towards me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:04 PM Flag
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