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05.23.08, 17:01 PM General Topics
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have a 5mo db that is several times a night. Have a dh who travels 3-4 nights a week. Also have a toddler. I feel like I'm fine during the day - can handle the kids, have a good social network, etc. When the sun starts to set, and I anticipate the night, or when I'm up at night I turn into an evil person. Cuss at my husband, cry, hate my life, etc. Am I depressed or just sleep deprived? Should I talk to my doc about it? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
 

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can you get a night nurse for a few nights a week? or try sleep training your db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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can't afford the night nurse. I'd like to sleep train, but am afraid to do it so early. I ferbered my son at 7mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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honestly i did it at exactly 5 mos and it was the best thing i did for my db and for me...yes it was a difficult few nights but after that we both got the sleep we very much needed...GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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was your db still eating at night? Mine is, she gobbles it down. I don't want her to be hungry at night. :( I'm ok with training her to put herself back to sleep, but I'm afraid of making her cry cause she's hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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no i stopped feeding him at night around 4 months...how much does your db weigh? does she eat a lot during the day? i tried to feed my db every 3 hours during the day knowing that he would be okay at night..that is what ped said [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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db weighs 14 lbs. She eats about 5 oz every three hours (total of 5 bottles) during the day and one to two 4 oz bottles at night. I have tried and tried to get her to drink more than 5 oz during the day, but she won't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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OK so start slowly...decide which bottle you think she would least likely to be hungry for at night and let her CIO for that particular bottle and work from there... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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this sounds like good advice. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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np: at 5mo it's more of a habit. they don't need to eat in the middle of the night at 5mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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I know that in theory. But, she gobbles it down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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how many times p/night is she up? I used to wake to feed #1 at around 10:30-11 pm before I went to bed so I could get a few hours in after that. My #2 was still getting up 2x's p/nt to eat also at that age. Do you ff or bf? Honestly, try formula at night, it may hold her longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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I ff now. Do you think starting solids would help? We are waiting until 6 mos, but could probably be persuaded to start sooner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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I used to find the evenings very difficult also - also feared night time when db #2 was up often - I could never bring myself to CIO. Finally at 10 mos when I was at my wits end I bought Ferber and before I even had a chance to read it #2 started sleeping through the night. Not that this helps you right now...but the end is in sight. I think there's something about being alone at night that just makes the crying and the stress of 2 kids harder than it is when the sun it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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thanks. Each night I think "I'm calling my doc tomorrow to get on meds" and then the day comes, I have my coffee, and everything is fine. Does make me wonder if I'm crazy or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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U R SOO NOT CRAZY..OR here...we ALL feel better during the day when the rest of the world is up...nights are always the hardest and i found the early early mornings to be difficult...hang in there..how many times do you feed your db at night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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one, sometimes two times. But I'm up a lot more giving her the paci. 2yo also wakes in the early morning alot - 5 am three times last week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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you need to make a rule to 2yo and dont go to her till 6am the earliest NO MATTER WHAT>..you need to get your night sleep back....start slow tih 5mo if that makes you feel better..only get up1x and feed her the rest of the time she gets up try to let her CIO...it will be hard the first 2 nights but i PROMISE You that you will feel like a different person after a week... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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How do I make that rule with 2yo? I'd love some advice there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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well is 2yo stil in crib..if so then you just DO NOT go to her untill 6am...she may fall back to sleep or learn to entertain herself...this advice comes from a sleep therapist i contacted when i was dealing with early wakeups too...after a few mornings of crying/fussing my db learned to fall back to sleep and now wakes up 630-7 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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He's in a big bed. He get's up, and knocks on his door until I open it. If I ignore him he cries and knocks harder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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hmmmm that is hard when they are in the bed...will he fall asleep in bed wtih you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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if you're BF, try pumping milk in the morning and giving it DB at night. morning milk is supposed to have more fat and will keep them sated longer. my sis did this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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If you're evil then I'm the devil himself. I feel/do the same things you do and I only have 1 db and DH is home every night. You're just in an extreme situation, with lots of stress and unfortunately don't have the means to get support. Other than cio I'm sorry I don't have any advice but hopefully you'll feel better knowing you're not the only one who feels like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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