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05.22.08, 22:15 PM General Topics
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sorry for invading, but as you are all moms, this is the best place to ask. my mom is miserable about her weight and it's putting this horrible strain on my parents' marriage and is affecting her health. she tries to lose it, but just keeps giving up, and i just want to help her. how? please, i'll do anything. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 10:15 PM Flag
 

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weight watchers. seriously. it's great, and especially for moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:16 PM Flag
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thanks, i'll suggest it. i already go to her exercise classes with her to try and keep her motivated, and i try to subtlely encourage her to eat right. she's trying, but it's so hard for her. it's like it's so easy for my dad to keep in shape but she's fighting uphill to lose a single pound. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:17 PM Flag
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be supportive, try to be around when she might resort to emotional eating - take her out for walks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:20 PM Flag
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okay, i'll do that. emotional eating is a real weakness for her. are there any specific times of day or something when it's more likely to happen, so i know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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I would think the evening. Most good ways to lose weight involve not eating past say 8 pm, or no carbs past a certain time etc. So the evening is when the emotional eating may sneak in. Try to find an alternative that you can make into a ritual for her, such as a cup of herbal tea, instead of ice cream, etc. (I know it's not as yummy, but it won't stick to her hips either) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:25 PM Flag
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is her weight or her unhappingess about it putting the strain on the marriage? cause part of it might be to talk her out of being so upset about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:17 PM Flag
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i think it's how my dad is acting about it. i love him, but he resents her so bad for her weight. that isn't even all. she has a bad leg and the extra weight makes it hurt a lot, and she was even getting blood clots in her bag leg because of the excess weight. she's always getting upset over looking fat and i just want to do anything to help fix it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:19 PM Flag
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keep in mind- you can;t fix it, you can help, but it is ultimately up to her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:20 PM Flag
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tell me about it :( - it is hard- diet and exercise- there is no circumventing that- if it is severe there is the lap band (although not the best I have heard- but many have great results)...it is tough- but I will bet it is more self esteem in a broader sense. Has she tried therapy? What about hypnosis? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:18 PM Flag
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right now I'M the one in therapy for bulimia and i know it sounds like the blind leading the blind here, but i just don't know what to do. i can't just let her be miserable like this. should i bring her along for an appointment or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:20 PM Flag
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you may want to recommend a therapist to her - or if your therapist agrees have her come for a session or so. Sounds like you both have eating disorders, yours has a DSM classification, but overeating, while not classified in the DSM, is a "disorder" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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yeah, the people i'm seeing specialize in EDs. maybe one of them can help her. the dietician suggested i go to a group. i think i'll ask my mom if she wants to come too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:23 PM Flag
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good idea, sounds like you both are suffering from the same thing- just manifesting differently. GL :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:27 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:28 PM Flag
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