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05.22.08, 18:22 PM General Topics
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Help me stop being so over involved please. dd is 3 1/2 and can't play alone for a minute. i know i'm the problem, i feel guilty for ever saying no about my time. i'm home all day and spend it with my kids, yet can't shake this feeling that i should be doing more...... HELP! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:22 PM Flag
 

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buy a book on people pleasing or go to therapy. this could translate into something from your childhood that is manifesting itself in your childrearing. Trust me...I know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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funny thing is, i'm the opposite of that with EVERYONE else in my life, almost selfish! but with her, i'm her slave. soooooo bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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does she go to school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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she did, but only 2 hours a week, it ended last week. she'll be going for longer days in the fall. what to do in the meantime? my question is also, is anyone else like this? if so, why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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are you saying you play nonstop with them or that you need to do more with them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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i play non stop, feel guilty for ever saying no. i do sometimes of course, laundry needs to be done, to cook dinner. but she "helps" me with everything. i think the therapy suggestion was right unfortunately...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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you probably do this in other areas of your life. break the cycle and go to therapy. the time you take to go will be a good step in the right direction to put yourself first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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well its only temporary for the next few months until she goes to school. It will peter off dont you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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Get on UB and ignore her like the rest of us do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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lol! i just wish i could fix this before i screw her up anymore:( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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have another baby. or get a hobby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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i have a 3 mo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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Put her in nursery school or PT day care ASAP. By the time you put the brakes on it will be too late. Give her some space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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putting her in day care only takes care of her child. she needs to take care of the behavior. Deal with it head on and go see someone. Did you have an abusive or alcoholic parent? these are coping mechanisms (albeit, very good ones) for children raised in this atmosphere, but you need to break out now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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Ooookkkaaay. I think the child needs to be taken care of! And soon! But I agree with you that the OP needs to deal with her compulsion. She's got another one coming up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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not at all, they were great! but both died when i was young. i think when she was born i got my unconditional love fix and it grew from there..... i dunno. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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