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05.22.08, 13:36 PM General Topics
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Dilemma: Ex and his girlfriend are now moving to NYC. My dh and I just moved here a little less than a month ago. Now that he is near us, he is going to want to see her more. I hate his guts, I think he should stick to the 1 weekend a month that he already gets, should I consult a lawyer? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 01:36 PM Flag
 

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Sure and what do you think they will tell you? It's his dd too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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what do you think is best for your kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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op: for her to see him one a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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custody/visitation isn't about your relationship with him, it is about your respective relationships with your dc. mom up and be a bigger person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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it's not about you, it's about your dd. he should see her more assuming he's a responsible, caring father. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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If I were a kid and my parents lived in the same city and my mom prevented me from seeing my dad more than one weekend a month, I'd really resent her as I grew up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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Has the situation always been one weekend a month? Then stick with that. It would be bad for dd if her dad gets excited about being involved, sees her a ton, has a new girlfriend who thinks playing mommy is really fun...only to have it go away if ex DH changes his mind or starts a new family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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op: it has always been one weekend a month. i was a single mom, while he was down in Miami partying. He also didnt always see her once amonth, sometimes it was less because he made decisoins not to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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OR I know the other posters disagree, but I think you're right to be protective of dd. Consistency is best. I tend to think if a dad hasn't been heavily involved, needed to live in the same state as his child for the first few years, he's not going to be a stable presence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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but you know what, I'm guessing when her ex slacked off that was fine with her and she didn't push him to see her. she needs to push. she has to be an advocate for dd - and like him or not, dd needs a daddy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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op: there was nothing I could do. When I did, he accused me of plotting to get him back. even though I am maried now, he thinks that I am lying, that we really arent married and that i want him back and it isnt true. so i stopped saying things, everything i said, he twisted it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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well, contact a lawyer then. I don't know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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op: thats what i am saying. he isnt stable. this year he banked on getting into business school, he didn't, now hes changing s=things again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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what does your custody agreement say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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op: we dont have one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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single mom here, let him see your dd - as long as he doesn't abuse her, he should see her as much as he can. one more person to love her, doesn't she deserve that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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op: she knows he loves her. however, I am not going to have her life disrupted just because his gf got into Columbia. He didnt move here to be near her, he moved because of his girlfriend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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be the bigger person. forget about his motivations, if he sees her who cares why. you need to move beyond your own anger, which I can practically feel rolling off your post. I've been there, I promise. but my disgust at the person I called dh has nothing to do with my love for my daughter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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