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05.22.08, 09:00 AM Expecting
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I am going to separate from DH. I have 2 children. I feel so alone on this! I cannot bear the thought of staying with him though... Will I get over this? I feel I cannot do it rigth now. I am so sick every night and loosing a lot of weight. Help me please! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Expecting 05.22.08, 09:00 AM Flag
 

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what is wrong with the marriage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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Everyhting... I realize after 4 years I married the idea of him and not him. He is verbally abusive, he does not help at all, and I don't have what i am looking in a husband... Companionship, care, love, help... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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ok, sounds very bad. esp. verbally abusive. but please se a counselor, if only to straighten out your own reasons, heart about it, but maybe to fix the relationship too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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i'm sure you've told him he can't talk to you that way, right? does he respond? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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Of course I've told him. And now that it is too late he is doing something about it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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why is it 'too late"? my sister made that mistake with 2 boys. Just because it is on YOUR timetable, and not his, he is human, afterall and if he is willing to work on things, then shouldn't you be for the sake of those kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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and stay in a marriage without sex, love? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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so someone should stick around with an abusive jerk until he feels like changing his act? wow, great advice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Walk away wife syndrome www.divorcebusting.com/a_walkaway_wife.htm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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we need more information. why you leaving. the quick answer is that if you do it it's going to suck for awhile. so make sure you really really have to. have you tried counseling. if not. do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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we started counseling 3 weeks ago. But I am sure of what I want... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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hmm. then you know, but if you have any doubts, take the time you need to skort them out and have a good plan you can fall back on cause it'll be tough and you'll need to be resolute. good luck, and sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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Thank you. I am so afraid of what lays ahead! but I don't want to stay in a marriage that makes me miserable. he promised he will change. He is doing conseling (his idea) and he is helping more and being nice... But I think I fell out of love :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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You lost me on "fell out of love". What is that, some manhole you trip and fall in and out of. You choose to love sweetie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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But he killed all the love and respect I had fro him throughout these past years... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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I was you 2 years ago. I was leaving, done, couldn't stand him. For reasons though I ended up staying and put leaving "on hold". Best thing I could have done. 2 yrs later I am happily married. Having been you though I know that there is noting anyone can say to change your mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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np-and I've seen plenty of women stay in the hopes that things will get better and they don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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you really need to keep up with counseling. while your mind may be /made up' right now, there could be many things you are not clearly seeing at the moment. Also, be prepared to the financial difficulites as well as possible custody issues that can arise- espcially if the break turns hostile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Financial difficulties don't scare me. I am a fighter and I will do anything for my kids. I am sure we will be ok. I am afraid of being alone and making another mistake because of it. But I do not want to stay with him just for the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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good for you. It will be really tough, for awhile, but you will come out of it-be strong! and don't judge yourself for feeling depressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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I dont get why people are advising you to stay in the marriage. I think it's great you have made your decision and wish you all the best. You will be happier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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I completely agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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