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05.22.08, 05:27 AM Toddler
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SAHMS, what do your kids do in the morning? I feel like my 3 yo can't find any way to entertain herself except to grab everything out of 16 mo's hands and otherwise harass sibling. And yes I've posted before. Do we need more toys or something? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 05.22.08, 05:27 AM Flag

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not in preschool? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 AM Flag

op: she'll be 3 in a month. she's in preschool 2 days a week (3 in the fall, thank god) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 AM Flag

tv time [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 AM Flag

I have same ages and we get out of the house a LOT! The minute we are out the door everybody feels better. Hard with all this rain though. Playdoh is good, just make sure you have enough for both kids. You don't need more toys, you need to engage them more. Can you get all 3 of you on the couch and read books together? Older one needs to learn to share, but also needs positive attention from you. I posted the other day about letting them have more alone time (with you watching, but not noticeably). I know it sounds weird, but my older one is so nice to his little sister when I am not around. It is all competition for mom's attention. Also, the more responsibility I give the older one the more he rises to the occasion. Try to rethink your parenting with the 3 yo. GL! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 AM Flag

I hear you, but the problem is that when I am not around, the aggression begins. I am far from a helicopter parent, would love for them to be able to play nicely together, my total fantasy. As for engaging them more, I do, but I don't think it's too much to ask to have a cup of tea and brush my teeth before totally diving into the day, y'know? It really feels like older sib can't be nice for 5 minutes, which is all I'd really need. It's exhausting. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 AM Flag

I truly think that you and the 3 yo are in some sort of power struggle and you need to rethink how you are approaching this. How can you get some positive energy going? How can you get her involved with the 16 mo in a way that is not punitive? Can you get any alone time with the 3 yo? I know this is hard - I don't have any help either. But a little more work with the 3 yo will pay off down the road! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 AM Flag

how about giving her some positive attention? It sounds like you expect a 3 yo and 16 mo to just play nicely together which is kind of ridiculous. Do you ever sit down with the 3 yo and read, play a game, teach her how to write her name, etc every day? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag

i don't "just expect that," and of course i spend time with her. i do, however, expect a few minutes here and there where it isn't acrimonious between the two of them. doesn't seem like a lot to expect. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:44 AM Flag

no, she actually needs some of your attention [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 AM Flag

Please don't be nasty. Of course she gets my attention, and yes, both good and bad. Some of the suggestions here are good ones, ladies, and I appreciate them. To those who think they need to tell me my child "actually needs some of my attention," as if this would be a eureka moment for me, I guess you just need to find some way to feel superior to others. Blows my mind. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:41 AM Flag

this is why it is a bad age difference - many 3 yos are not capable of what you want him.her to be [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 AM Flag

eh...this is irrelevant. My 3 yo is like this with the baby too [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 AM Flag

jmho [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 AM Flag

that it's a bad age difference? how is that helpful? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:44 AM Flag