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05.21.08, 17:46 PM General Topics
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Which would you pick: DH keeps current job/salary but has lots of time at home, or DH gets promotion at double his salary, but is never home while dcs are awake during the week? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.21.08, 05:46 PM Flag
 

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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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depends; how are you doing financially w/current salary? my dh is never home when kids are awake during the week. it sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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You have a chance of being solvent when it's hard for him to get work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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As one w/ a dh who is never home while dcs are awake I can tell you it really puts a strain on the family - plus he works often on weekends too. That said, it would also be a strain if he made less money so you really can't win. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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depends on your financial picture. if you are comfortable and able to save on current salary, i'd opt to have dh around. [ Reply | More
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the first. we have little money but a high quality of family because dh is home for lunch each day and usually works 10-5:30 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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^family time, not "high quality of family"...though I like to think we have a high quality of family as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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will doubling his salary improve your current lifestyle? move to a better neighborhood, better schools for dcs, or allow you to sahm if you choose? it really depends on what is impt to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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It depends on your age. We elected the "DH is never home strategy" i'm glad we did because we saved a lot of money. DH is now a bit over 50 and unemployed. we have a close family and no money worries becasue we saved for the rainy day. Believe me it does rain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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^^ Ialso worked for 20 yrs with dcs so we put away enough to be independent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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depends what you prefer. My dh works a lot and makes enough so that I can stay home with db. Otherwise, we'd both be working and in NYC you work a lot of hours no matter what you get paid! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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Time at home, no question. [ Reply | More
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you have no concept of the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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No, I'm coming from the perspective of having lived w/a dh who's not home enough and doing all the child care myself, and we are now divorcing partly b/c of this lifestyle. I would choose a man who is home more over one who makes more money any day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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DH and I were a "team" (ew did I say that?) he worked massive hrs and traveled while he had the chance to make big money. i worked until 6 and limited my travel because while [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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^^ I wanted a career - I wanted to be with my dcs too. It worked very well and we were happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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It really is "to each his own," some women would be perfectly happy with my dh and his work schedule; it just hasn't been good for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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gl to you I hope you find the right man - you sound like a wonderful person and mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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BTDT - you adjust. DH's new salary means that I can stay home for the forseeable future instead of going back to work as soon as DD starts school full-time in Sept. But, it also means that he travels at least one week a month. When he is in town, he never gets home before she goes to bed at night, but she is an early riser and they usually have breakfast together before they wake me up (around 7am). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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option 1 [ Reply | More
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If those are the only choices, then, time at home. Ideally, he would make at least 50% more and WOH instead of WAH, but with little change in hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Double [ Reply | More
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