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05.28.08, 13:16 PM General Topics
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These are the things that I judge other mothers for: 1) giving birth without meds??? Why god's sake? Get over yourself, no one cares how selfless you are. 2)breastfeeding a child over hte age of 12 mos. Gross. You are a totally dependant person who cannot let go and you need a life. Plus it is seriously icky to see a child, not a baby, a child sucking on your boob. 3) Super Anti-TV moms. If you want to limit fine, but raising a child to never be exposed to TV is first of all naive, becuase they will have friends and they will watch at their houses and it is raising a child who will regularly get his ass kicked on the playground for being such a nerdy loser becuase he isn't up on whatever the hell kids are up on at that time. 4) overly pretentious moms who feel the need to waste money on stupid nonsense that is supposed to be for the kid but really only impresses other motners i.e. bugaboos, designer clothes for infants and toddlers, etc. ...and last but not least...5) crazy obsesive private school parents who start worrying and planning before the kid is even born and start "tutoring" their kids on the exams before they can even sit up on their own. Wheeh! I have wanted to get that off my chest forever! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 01:16 PM Flag
 

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whoah! Calm down nelly! You are gonna pop a vein like that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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nothing worse than a rant that gets cut off. i really needed to know your #4 (and is there a #5 as well?) so that i could quickly adjust my own principles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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np click on th text and it will come up in a new window [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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phew. i thought i missed it :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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just click on said rant and it will open up so you can see the whole thing. and yes there is a #5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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Why do these things bother you? I know how I want to live and if other people choose to do something different I really don't get worked up about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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I'm with you, except for #4, because I do like to by the occassional cute outfit for my son. I can't stand the iron on outfits some people put their kids in. I lOVE nice soft clothing. The breastfeeding thing is really confusing to me. The thing is, if your kid is really begging for your boob, I can see where mom's that wouldn't have thought they'd be nursing for more than a year, end up nursing. Watching a kid that old on a boob is so gross though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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LOL! you and OP got issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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LOL - everybody has an opinion. Parents only more so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I guess so. I will never understand why people get so worked up about what other people do with their kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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i have a question about your third judgement. is it only the social aspect that bothers you? i don't allow dcs to watch tv. but i've found a whole group of moms that feel the same way. we ended up making a sort of preschool for our dcs. not sure what we'll do for elementary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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I think TV is part of our world and our culture. If you want to raise your kids in some kind of psuedo-amish throwback to a simpler time enviroment, then move to another country. Limit the shows, limit the time, all fine with me. And yes, I agree there is to much voilence and sex on TV and kids shouldn't see that. But parents who raise their kids as if they don't live in this time and this country and in this culture irk me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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ITA and well said [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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np. How about if just don't have time to sit and watch tv because you are actually doing things? We don't own a tv and honestly I don't know when we would watch it if we did (maybe instead of being on UB!). There is lots of stuff on the internet news, cartoons etc without the need for tv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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that's fine but like OR said, tv is part of the culture. I want DD to not be a couch potato but I also want her to be able to relate to her peers. We watch a little tv and it wont hurt her a bit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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ITA. If you don't think not letting your kids watch tv won't hurt them socially, you are dumb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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just for the principle of it, i want my opinion registed. and it does not agree with yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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op: that's fine. I am not saying you should force your chid to watch TV. But sheltering them from it like the devil will reach out from the tube and drag them into the abyss is ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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but a boob in a toddler's mouth is the devil that will drag you into the abyss? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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there really aren't that many countries that don't have tv access. it's not a question of another country. it's a question of choosing a lifestyle. or maybe it's a question of choosing to limit exposure. i guess it depends on the person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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np: but sex and violence are a huge part of our world and culture, too, why limit them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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did you ever see invasion of the body snatchers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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no. did i miss something important? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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see you need to watch TV, if for no other reason than to get the references. My point was that they will meet kids who watch TV, they will then themselves start watching TV and your little unexposed TV virgins will be become pod people like the rest of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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i grew up not watching tv. i don't have a tv in our house. we're fine. every once in a while something comes up and i don't really get the joke or the reference. but most of the time it's not a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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Ha. Aside from #4 and # 5, these are all the things that I wish I could have done but didn't have the patience or the mommy-gene to carry through. I'm jealous of other moms that manage to pull it off, I don't judge them. I would add to this list to include never feeding their kid any junk food or sweets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I agree with 90% of what you have to say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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What I hate most of all are jugdemental divas like you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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said the monther who gave birth in tub of mud while chanting and now breastfeeds a 21 mos in her home without TV, and is going to take her kid to his preschool prep class in her bugaboo, while wearing handmade clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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lol, nope, had a planned c-section, baby, did not breastfeed at all, you're right about preschool and bugaboo, got me there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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you remind me of that joke about the guy driving on the highway...everyone going faster was a jerk and everyone going slower was an idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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LOL! you I like! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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seriously. there are few people more closeminded than the people who think they are absolutely normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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I only judge people who feel the need to judge those who don't conform to their "middle of the road" bland conformist value systems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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why do people who take radical approaches to things think that middle of the road people are boring and wrong. Isn't is logical, esp. in hte area of child rearing, that no one person is correct and thus an approach that is somewhat in the middle and incorporates a little of everything is better than taking a black and white approach to things? When it comes to raising kids I think bland and conformist is better than radical, out of the box ways that make you a social pariah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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np: only some of the op's issues are child-rearing issues. also, choosing a "radical" approach in one area does not mean you are a radically parenting. and lastly, as someone who the op would think is a quack-job, i can say that i don't think mainstream is boring. i'm very secure in my decisions and my parenting. i don't have anything against the mainstream. i certainly don't go around judging them and thinking their decisions are wrong. my issues with the op aren't her decisions in raising her children, it's her judgement of people who do things differently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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np: I don't think op is middle of the road, she is totally bashing anyone doing anything slightly different than her. This is very narrow and stupid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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LOL! You would hate me! 1)Wish I could have done it w/out meds, next time! 2)Breasting feeding til 3 and glad for it, kid is healthy as horse & smart as whip which I figure will result in great schools & scholarships saving me big $ 3)No TV, shut off cable but DVD ok, 4)we match here, i don't buy into the consumer culture but still have lots of great $ fashion thanks to MIL, mom and friends 5)I may go here but with the breast feeding advantage we are already ahead of the game! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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you lost me at bearstfeeding until 3. You are seriuosly disgusting, if you are serious. And if you think for a second that you kid is healthy as a horse becuase you breast feed you are deluded. My 13 mos has never been sick a day in his life -and only breastfed for 5 mos. My friend is stil breastfeeding her 13 mos (yes I think she is boarding on gross too), and he has has had 3 ear infections and pink eye so far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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oh shut your trapper stuck in mud granny and take your personal issue and shove it. Long term breast feeding is great for kids. They are moving recommendations for 1 to 2 years. There is much scientific evidence proving the positives and this trend will continue. Your going to wind up the grumpy old hag at the mall kevetching about the breastfeeding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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wow that's a lot of hostility and defensiveness. Someone is a little touchy about her weird and perverted choices, i think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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granny, you need to change your underwear everyday or you will smell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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you don't have to be immature to think that breastfeeding beyond a year is a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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late to the party, but we're going til 4. also, the word is bordering, not boarding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Wow. You must be very insecure about your own parenting choices if you felt you needed to write this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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1) I had 2 kids with no meds and it was not "selfless" at all, I did it for completely selfish reasons: I was more comfortable that way. I don't brag about it, nor do I think less of anyone else based on her birth choices. 2) I breastfed 1st DC until 18 months. That happened to be the best time for our particular nursing relationship to end. I don't give a rat's ass what you or anyone else thinks about it, and fortunately it is my legal right to nurse wherever I want. And I don't judge other moms, whether they nurse for 3 days or 3 years. 3) My kid watches tons of TV, but I think no-TV moms are gutsy and bravo to them. 4) I don't have the budget for designer stuff personally, but perhaps those who do are just drawn to innately good-quality stuff that satisfies their aesthetic sense. It doesn't always have to be about status. 5) I'll give you this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I don't like Ignoramus Mothers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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wow you sure have issues. For example about breastfeeding -- do you feel parents whose kids still have a pacifier or use a bottle after 12 mos are gross, need a life, and are dependant people who cannot let go? you clearly have issues - and most of these judgements are things that are total personal choices, and you being so anti them shows how insecure and closed minded you are... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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lol. i wanted to give birth w/o meds because i believed it was healthier for the baby and i read a faster recovery. that said i changed my mind at six centimeters but they couldn't find my doctor in time. it was by default but i don't think anyone wants accolades from strangers on this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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You sound like trash. Plain and simple. Stop being such a mindless mom-drone, ok? Your hostility towards bfing past 1 yr is particularly creepy and trailer-parkish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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^^ps: I had a c/s, bfed 12 mo, let my dc watch tv @ 3 mo, own a mac, will send dc to public [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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You care more about popularity for your children then thier intelligence and achievements. You care more about what others think of you than making good decisions. You are a secretary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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see you might have been making a good point there, but then the secretary comment. Why? Becuase all secretaries are dumb? Is that what you meant to imply? How does making an offensive and insulting comment like this make you better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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As someone who was raised by a mother that always did everything "right" like the mothers that op is complaining about, I can tell you that doing this kind of stuff in the extreme can have a negative effect on the kids. Yes, taking the high road is good in some circumstances but kids need to feel like they fit in and you are risking their self-esteem if don't recognize that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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