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[ - ] DD's first day coming home from school alone. She made it! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Yay!!!! Good for her (and you) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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Aw. Good job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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DS's too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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I want to know too, and really hoping the answer is something ridiculous like 12 or 13. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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Why ridiculous? DD is 11.5 and just going on the subway, it is a huge deal even for 12 or 13 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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NP: 11 which is the age they start here in nyc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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OP: 11 and in sixth grade. Isn't that normal? We planned to let her start going alone last year, mid-year, but just never got our acts together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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^^On the subway btw. She's been walking places alone for over a year -- home from a class at the Y, to the library for an hour, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:34 AM Flag
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totally normal and congrats! When my ds started commuting by subway in 6th grade, he got adventurous a couple times and got completely lost, that was a few months into commuting though (took express instead of local and missed his stop, ended up first far uptown and then in Brooklyn, we live in downtown Manhattan). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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Same here. It’s so stressful!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a Fall Bucket List? (no flames, I'm not that basic, ha ha). We already went apple picking last week and now want to see what else we can do to make this Autumn fun. (NYC and surrounds). Dh said a haunted house but I'm too chicken. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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We really don't do those kinds of activities. Going to my cousin's wedding down south this weekend, then up to the Adirondacks for our annual trip up there. DD prepping for high school auditions. I have to have some things ready for an October production, so just busy all around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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Yankees playoff game! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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Seeing the Flaming Lips at Riot Fest this weekend in Chicago. Going to Traverse City for long weekend over Columbus Day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Posted above, but have fun at Flaming Lips! God, I love that band. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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Tell me about Traverse City. Looks lovely! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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Oh, I want to do Riot Fest too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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It's not a bucket list if it's just for the season. Unless you have plans for your demise this winter... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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We all gotta go sometime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Oh, I thought it was called that? lol... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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It comes from "things you want to accomplish or experience before you kick the bucket." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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ha ha. Yes, so Fall To-Do List it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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We always do a corn maze and "pumpkin picking" which is really choosing one from a field to which they've been transported. There are lots of corn mazes in Connecticut, where we spend many weekends. Tis fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Hmm...I'll have to give that a look. Are clam shacks still open in CT in the fall? I love some of those places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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The ones in our regular town close when the college kids have to leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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ahh...makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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It's not even actually Fall yet. And I love Fall. Go apple picking next month when the apples are actually in season. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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This place had ones that were ripe. I agree--it was a little too early for me. But we got some good ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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no way by october everything good is gone! now is the time to go. i’ve never been but heard good things about the jack o lantern blaze in croton on hudson [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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apple varieties mature at different times [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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Apple season starts now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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The pumpkin thing at the Harlem Meer is usually fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 02:09 AM Flag
[ - ] What classes are your public 10th grader taking and what do you expect for 11th grade ? And share the school if you mind :) 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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Why [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Algebra 2/Trig, Humanities, Chemistry, Chem Lab, Qualitative Research, Spanish 3, Theater. Millennium. 11th grade will be more AP oriented. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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English, World People Studies, Algebra 2, Coding, PE, Transportation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Interesting ! What school ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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Mine now 12th (one of top 3 publics in our state, not NY) but last 2 years - 10th: honors English, AP stats, Honors French 4, Honors World History, AP Euro History, Honors Chem, theater. 11th: AP English Comp, AP French 5, AP Bio, AP US History, Honors pre-calc, theater, Independent study. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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your school has 7 courses a year?That seems like a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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I don’t know, I’m sure she maxes out what she can do, and the AP Euro in 10th was an extra thing she did independently ( online) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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NP. MY DCs school has at least 7 sometimes 8 academic courses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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Really? DC has six (SHS). Each is insanely intense,though. If she had seven she'd die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Wow ! That is a lot ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:26 AM Flag
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English honors, Algebra 2 honors, Spanish 5 honors, AP world history and chemistry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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Wow, it's been a few years, but when DD was in 10th grade at Bronx Science she took either geometry or pre-calc, AP Java, AP Euro, AP chem, Japanese, honors English, and I don't remember the rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:47 PM Flag
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my 10th grader in LI burb: AP World, AP music theory, AP psychology, Algebra 2 accelerated, English 2 accelerated, Chemistry accelerated, and Spanish 2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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This sounds reasonable - challenging and fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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Honors Algebra/Trig, Honors English, Honors Chem, AP World, Spanish 2, Programming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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ya gotta love UB. No kid takes a non honors course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:47 AM Flag
[ - ] I asked this morning, but couldn't wait for responses. I'm a teacher and am thinking of buying these shoes for the fall, winter and early spring. What color would you buy? I wear a lot of black, but black shoes are so boring, that I'm thinking of metallic, but would that look of with black fishnet stockings? https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-day-heel-iron?collection=womens-heels 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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Wait, you're a teacher and you wear black fishnet stockings to work. Seems risque and annoying to teach in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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OP: tailored fishnet, not the sexy kind. Just a pattern . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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What the heck are tailored fishnets? No holes just a pattern in the tight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:15 AM Flag
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I'm much older than you but find these shoes boring and ugly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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OP: I"m 55. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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In the original post, someone said 37 or 38. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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^^my bad, went back to the original post and that appeared to be someone else. Nonetheless, I'll be 56 this year and I still think they will age you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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NP They seem to be both frumpy and terrible for being on your feet with that high heel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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I have those shoes in black and never wear them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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I tried looking at them this morning but had to enter my email and refused, I can see them now, are the they a bit old-ladish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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They'd be uncomfortable to me. I'd do a flat. Heel is too high unless you sit mostly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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Who would you be trying to impress? Isn't comfort, support, and foot, leg, and back health more important than being interesting for students whose opinions don't count? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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My mother was a teacher and had to have surgery on both feet after a lifetime of walking a ton and wearing heels. Why oh why would you want to wear these shoes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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They can only be worn successfully by a hot hipster girl. Otherwise, not flattering on anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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We already told you they're ugly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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These are really not cute. And I bet that elastic in the back will dig into your ankle and hurt. Just say no, instead consider getting some Manolo Blahnik, he makes beautiful shoes that show up in droves on eBay, Therealreal and Poshmark because the people who buy them replace them often. Get a pair of pretty flats or kitten heels. Seriously, I'm 50+, used to wear Aerosole and then discovered Manolo, never went back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 02:02 AM Flag
[ - ] So D15 moms: What are you hearing about the middle school so far? Do you see greater diversity? Whats the vibe? Anyone thrilled/not thrilled with placement. Just looking for a sense of how the changes are going 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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They have been in school 3 days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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This. It's a little early to tell... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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So far MS 51 seems very diverse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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More than previously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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We ended up in a school that was always diverse. Seems a little disorganized but early to tell anything else. I am sure in October/November we will see a lot of threads on PSP Tween board about the individual schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Recently spoke with someone who is a partner in biglaw and she was floored her DS didn’t get into any TT preschools. She said it is because she didn’t use her connections because she wanted to do things “the right way.” Didn’t want t9 tell her BigLaw partners are pretty much a dime a dozen in the preschool process and definitely nothing special. Agree? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:17 PM Flag
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I don't care enough to agree or disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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Ah, memories! If I had to do it all over again it would be our public preschool from the very beginning instead of during elementary, after we had wasted so much money on private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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I think she realizes that! She wanted her kid to get in on his or her merits. But that doesn’t exist in nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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Her 2yo was lacking merits? I hope 3K for All will steal most of the kids from preschools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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Getting into nyc preschool is just about connections. That was my point- or [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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Loser. You are a loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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OMG. "TT Preschools"....HA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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what is your point? It’s not like she was hiding the fact that she’s a biglaw partner and now regrets it. Clearly she knows her job alone wasn’t getting her special status. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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Maybe she wasn't prepared for the competitiveness of it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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If she has to pull strings she isn't that important [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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I’m sort of surprised by this. I’ve heard it’s way less competitive than it used to be. My friends son got into all the preschools he applied to last year including three “TT” Ones. She was shocked how much it had changed since she applied her first son 8 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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It is less competitive but if your friend's first child is in a good ongoing, preschools look at it as: this kid will have sibling preference and is easier to place in a few years. If the ongoing is prestigious, then the younger DC is even more desirable as it enhances the cachet of the preschool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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yes it has absolutely become less competitive. besides maybe 3 or 4 in the city ,almost every preschool welcomes anyone in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 06:03 PM Flag
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Not being recommended by anyone as a big law partner may have worked against her more than being a dime of a dozen. Since pretty much everyone in her position would pull some strings, the schools would wonder why no one recommended that family. Are they such a problem family / lawyer that no colleague would vouch for them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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This. Sad but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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meh- someones kids are going to be rejected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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If I were just starting out now, I would go with UPK and try public first before going private in elementary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone successfully dealt with DD being the target of a Queen Bee and her underlings? I'm reading Queen Bees and Wannabes and getting good tips, but would love to hear any success stories and/or pitfalls to avoid. My DD is 9 yo 115 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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Are you reading this proactively, or is your 9 yo currently the target of a queen bee type? I [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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she's a huge target. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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She’s in third grade. Teachers are everywhere. She isn’t In harms way. So... teach her how to be a friend and choose a friend. That’s all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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Np here- obviously you’ve never been picked on as a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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Everyone gets picked on at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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not true. I have one who NEVER got picked on or picked on anyone; a second who was a constant target [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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Not obvious. You are wrong. Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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Hmm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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You were obviously never bullied or a mean-girl target, sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:59 PM Flag
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Geez, this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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She was physically held down last Friday and no teachers saw. So yes, she is in harm's way. I'm waiting to hear back from the school regarding having a meeting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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Does she have any marks? Who held her down? Did anyone else see and tell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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The school could have interviewed the kids separately. Of course someone will talk. This book isn't going to help you. the situation is way past that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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Not sure. Still waiting to speak with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:01 PM Flag
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Does she have any marks? What did she say. I have ds and they play rough all the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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No marks that i saw. She asked the girls to leave her alone and they wouldn’t so she ran away. They chased her and one held each arm while the other girl yelled something at her. That’s not “rough play” and she didn’t enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:59 PM Flag
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teach her to go to adult [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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She did. Went to a teacher and then the counselor. All on her own. I’m just not happy with their laid back response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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What do you want? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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I went them to leave her alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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That’s not a request anyone can grant. You understand that right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:30 AM Flag
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Then you go there today or tomorrow--call and tell the principal/secretary that you are coming to discuss physical intimidation and bullying. They need to take you seriously so you need to go all in on this. Been there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 07:17 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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This isn't the time for reading a book. If the school isn't taking it seriously then you have two choices - lawyer/call superintendent/etc or go and sit in the office of the school so you can be there in case your child is physically assaulted again. My friend had to do the second thing and suddenly class schedules (that teachers had been pushing to get changed) were changed. You have to just sit yourself in the office and not leave until it is resolved. Be nice but firm. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Something to repeat over and over is that your child does not feel safe at school. Most school districts have a policy about that and you need to use exact language. No child can learn when they don't feel safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Yes and that’s easy to do because it’s true!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:01 PM Flag
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Are you sure? Because to me that’s adult language. You say she’s gullible and befriends them and then say she doesn’t feel safe. You need to pick a lane before charging the office (which I don’t recommend) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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That is the language of policies about bullying, that is why OP needs to use it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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This. But since she doesn’t feel comfortable walking out onto the playground, she truly doesn’t feel safe. She hasn’t used that word specifically though. PP is correct that it is part of the schools code. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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That’s your opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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Yes. Adult language. So dont attribute to the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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This is ridiculous. She isn't saying her child SAID she doesn't feel safe, she is saying HER CHILD DOESN'T FEEL SAFE. The OP needs to use these specific words because they should get these people off their asses to take it seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 03:26 AM Flag
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It sounds like her child literally IS NOT SAFE. Op, you need to go there and bring your dh if you can--I hate to say it but schools are used to upset moms so they pay more attention when a dad shows up too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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unfortunately,in nyc, they may give your child a "safety transfer," which means you will have to switch schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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You have to park your ass in the office. Not calling and asking for a meeting. This is a big deal. Threaten to have a police report filed. Holding someone down is not ok. Of course other kids saw, does not matter if the teacher didn't see. This school sucks, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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I’m very anxious to talk with them and find out how they are going to handle it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:01 PM Flag
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They can’t handle it. Your dd will still be excluded. They can’t really stop this. I think you need to figure out longterm goal as a mom here. Is she in a k-12? Perhaps not the best place. You need to keep mama bear in check. It’s hard. But you can’t change the situation. Just try and help dd be smarter and find a friend. If it’s not at school, find an EC she likes with an opportunity to meet friend there. Church group, brownies, girls who code.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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This advice would have been fine but once it moved to physical, it went beyond this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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Offs on physical. A kid ran three girls chased and for all you know were trying to get her to stop and listen. The held her arm. This really isn’t a physical assault. OP don’t be THAT mom. Help your daughter. Don’t vilify others. Or make outrageous statements and or demands [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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No statements or demands from me. I don't want them to get in trouble, I just want them to stop. They REGULARLY chase/follow her after she's asked to be left alone. This time they caught her and held her so she couldn't get away. That is NOT OKAY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:29 PM Flag
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You said you aren’t happy with the laid back response of adults. What DO you WANT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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I want them to leave my DD alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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And how wil that be accomplished? What are you asking for in this meeting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:31 AM Flag
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We are considering changing schools. She has tried to find new friends to play with at recess but she’s afraid of looking for them in the playground. She will be alone until she finds them. So she just skips recess and stays inside to color. She has ECs where she loves the kids and fits in but that doesn’t help at school. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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There is nothing wrong with coloring or reading during recess in 3rd grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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It’s fine if it is by choice. It stinks when you are hiding there because you don’t feel comfortable on the playground. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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That’s retry much why everyone who colors or reads during recess is coloring or reading during recess. If it were more fun to be at recess, that’s where they would be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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My dc had something like this going on. I met with the principal and AP and the counselor. We came up with a short list of kids that she liked/felt safe with. They set up a little group--kids were asked if they wanted to join-- to do a fun activity with 1/week for a month. It helped get her a group of friends! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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Honestly, if you called and are waiting for an appointment to talk, you don't sound anxious. Go to school and talk with them, but figure out what you want before you start going down a particular path. Do you want to pull her out of the school, out of her class, or do you just want the teacher to be made aware. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 05:29 PM Flag
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Why does she have a target on her back? Can you figure that out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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She's not into boys or clothes. She likes computers, engineering, etc. Wears glasses, has a lisp. She's very funny and so sweet, but kids her age don't get past the exterior. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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It’s the glasses and lisp. Not much you can do about that, but both should go away as she gets older. She needs one friend. Get the teacher to help you find that person. Do. Not. Alienate. The. Teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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And find a clothes balance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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I’m not upset with her teacher at all. It’s on the playground, not in the classroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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Nyc public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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Private [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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Tread VERY lightly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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Then switch! What's holding you back? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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So these girls are perfectly lovely to her IN class but do t let her play at recess? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:27 PM Flag
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In class they can’t gang up. Most are nice one on one. Plus there is direct supervision in class. The hallways, lunchroom and playground are the tough spots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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There is adult supervision at recess too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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But far more sparse and kids are all over the place. Impossible to see and hear everything. I get that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:29 PM Flag
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The teacher should be following their social skills curriculum. The counselor should work with this class. There is a whole lot of letting them get by with stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Meaning you are letting the adults off the hook. PP is wrong above - the teacher and the school counselor and the other administrators CAN have an impact and get your dd in a better place with these other kids. They CAN. You are not saying what needs to be set to get this resolution though. They have curricula for dealing with this, the counselor can pull small groups, SO MUCH CAN CHANGE. But if you have to hold them accountable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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I’m going to hold them accountable not only for my DD but for all of the other girls who are dealing with these girls. My DD can’t be the only one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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Oh no. Please don’t talk like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.10.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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And look for another school... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:26 PM Flag
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We are. She can't escape these girls anywhere. Its a small school and there just aren't enough girls for her to go elsewhere to find friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:30 PM Flag
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Go public. Small schools suck for quirky shy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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It’s been awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.09.19, 11:50 PM Flag