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09.06.19, 12:05 PM General Topics
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So i have the unique perspective of having 2 kids who are now in college who went through K-12 school in public the NY burbs and then we moved back into the city and our 3rd is in an arts HS in Manhattan, two very different experiences and both with their own merits. But of course completely different experiences. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 09.06.19, 12:05 PM Flag
 

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That's cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:09 PM Flag
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op-it is. We always knew we would move back to the city and it just worked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:12 PM Flag
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Different in what ways? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:20 PM Flag
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so, the first thing is..kids are universally similar despite what SES they are from. It's the parent bodies that different a lot. So, in the burbs (I wasn't in a $ burb) the parents worked, of course many are very involved in the schools others are not etc (similar to NYC) but I would say much less "get my kid a tutor" attitudes for sure and burb parents let the school drive the process. And the burb school was very much more the traditional American HS experience. Sports teams, homecoming, great arts programs, plenty of money for extras in the school, music etc. A lot more classes (AP/IB/Electives, alternate programs) to choose from but a function of a lot more money. But very much SES "banding" so depending of what SD you are in, it's a more narrow band of HHI, I would say most kids have a range, ie Cold Spring Harbor has one range and Islip has another and it's not that common to have a family who makes 1mm at a school with families who make 40K) THAT is happening at my youngest NYC school. I like the teacher in NYC bc they are younger and hungier, but there is turnover. Not so much turnover in burbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:31 PM Flag
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The 2 in college -- did they graduate from public HS or private? Were they happy with their choices? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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op-yes, they both graduated from public HS. They are in top 3 colleges. Part of the reason why we moved back was frankly twofold, firstly bc my son got into a great school and secondly bc I felt like it would have been hard to follow his sisters who were the ultimate overachievers. He got a taste of that bc the school they were in was 7-12, and when he got there everyone was like "are you as smart as your sisters" and he is smart, and had a high average, but certainly not as focused and a very different kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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Sounds like it all worked out! I had the same thing, going to private school where I was 4th of 5 kids. Constantly compared to my brothers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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Thank you for sharing. It's always nice to hear from another parent who has been through this experience. What tips would give to parents for elementary and high school? Did you ever have a hard time with your kids as they transitioned to high school? Was there ever a time they wanted to rebel, party/drugs etc? My kids are still little so it's the teen years I'm a bit worried about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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op-wow, yes, so i'm not sure if this post is still active? LMK if you are still on, I'll happily answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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