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09.05.19, 23:16 PM General Topics
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A guy I am trying to impress just asked me what my five favorite movies are - either currently or all-time. Please tell me yours because I am drawing a blank and trying not to tell him shit like "Diner" and "Goodfellas" but also don't want to say "Joy Luck Club" or "Parenthood" ... help! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 09.05.19, 11:16 PM Flag
 

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My DH loves Diner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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Every guy does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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Have you seen it? What did you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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OR: I've tried watching it but I find it boring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:29 AM Flag
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Because it is 100% from a man's perspective. Its all about male friendships and the women are treated really badly. Not that men specifically like to see women treated badly, but if the roles in the movie were reversed, NO MAN would like this movie. Its got some great scenes, amazing dialogue and acting, but it is practically anti-feminist. See it again, and you'll see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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I should give it another try. sounds interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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Lol. I don't want to watch it with new eyes. I want the bickering over the sandwich to be preserved forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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That’s the best scene of course. And the piano scene at the burlesque place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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The Ponderosa looked faked! Hardly recognized little Joe! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:40 AM Flag
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Why not tell the truth, and get to know each other? Why are you trying so hard to impress him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 10:28 AM Flag
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Because we now seek the "right" answer, or the trendy one vs the truth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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My bad. I forgot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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DIner was excellent and critically acclaimed.Goodfellas is on everyone's list. Be honest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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here https://www.imdb.com/list/ls053251213/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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Why not just tell him your actual 5 favorite movies? Like, the 5 movies you like the most? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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DH here: FFS, this is the ONLY right answer. What's wrong with you?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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OP. So OK I'll ask - if you were looking to date after a 1st marriage, what answers to this question would make you NOT want to date her? Would you seriously consider any woman who said "EAT PRAY LOVE" or would you look twice if she said Moneyball? I've never seen the first or read the book but the book was better than the movie in the 2nd case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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DH responder here. There's no right or wrong answer. My wife and I have only moderate overlap in movie taste (we agree on spy flicks, superhero movies, and good sci-fi), but that's never been an issue. I'm glad to watch wacky movies that I'd never have seen, and she's the same. If you're a huge fan of a type of movie, own it. If your taste is ecclectic, own it. It's all good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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This. I may be the only person in the world who hates pulp fiction and happily married to a huge Tarantino fan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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NP I think there's probably a huge gender divide on Pulp Fiction. When it came out, I bought a ticket for Saturday afternoon then went about my errands. When I got back to the theater the ticket holders' line was all college age white guys. I almost didn't go in, because I assumed I would hate it (but I'm cheap, so I went in and enjoyed it). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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I'm OP. I liked Pulp Fiction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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I hated it. So boring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:27 AM Flag
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thanks. Maybe I'm overthinking it. I should probably know this by now, but I was alarmed by my initial list because I realized they were either strong female protagonist movies or they were "Band of Brothers" type situations where it might look like I'm pandering. But maybe just be honest. Although, I did that in my first marriage and my ex always made fun of me for the movies I liked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:52 PM Flag
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DH: Playful teasing about taste in arts is fun ... when playful. Just be yourself. If he's a jerk, always good to get that out in the open so you can not waste your time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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thank you, you are sweet. At heart I know you are right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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DH: You're welcome! good luck, have fun, and enjoy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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if you areant honest then you will have a lame relationship. My DH likes period movies. I hate them. We joke about it. If i had said i loved them, then we are constantly watching them and i lie my whole life? Be honest! What would you think of a man that pretended to like "Eat Pray Love" to impress you? Wouldnt you find that gross? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:15 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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This. He wants to find out what you're like. Unless it's some weird test, in which case, you don't want to be with him, anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:30 PM Flag
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OP. OK I totally get this, and I love Goodfellas, but I'll be honest, it doesn't lend anything to telling someone about what you're like. Everyone likes Goodfellas. It's a fantastic movie, almost perfectly shot. It's as useful as telling someone you liked the Godfather. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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You're wrong - not everyone likes it, and not everyone who likes it would think to list it. Same for Godfather of course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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Who does not like Goodfellas? I'm gonna need that bad review to believe this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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I'm not crazy about Goodfellas. Didn't have much story arc, imo -- the bad guys stayed bad guys, etc. Love The Godfather though -- I would put that on a list if a man asked me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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Most people aren't film critics, as you may have noticed. A lot of people never saw it and have no interest in "mob movies" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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It's better than that, but ok. Maybe I should mention it, if I have this position, though, lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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Right! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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np. I never saw it, have no interest in seeing it. I've never seen the Godfather movies either, just clips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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I liked Goodfellas a lot, but I wouldn't want to rewatch it often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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I didn't and I tend to like gangster movies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 04:48 PM Flag
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To jog your memory look up old lists on the Oscars website or the AFI list of the top 100 or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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Do you desperately need a man? He’s asking you to find out something about you. If you fake it, he won’t learn anything about YOU. Like others said, look up movie lists to jog your memory, but don’t start off relationships with fakery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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OP. I don't desperately need a man. This is a conversation I'm having with a fellow widower. We're older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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But, I think I like him. And I think I like his intellect. He's very, very smart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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NP: you clearly don't think you're as smart as he is so I see you setting yourself up for a not very good situation where there is not a balanced dynamic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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thanks. I'm smart, too, but he's so smart that I might be willing to tweak my current purview [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:31 AM Flag
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You should have mentioned your ages right off the bat. Very different movies would impress a 70yo vs a 25yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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DH: I disagree somewhat. DH loves movies old and new as long as they are good films. He’s 70 and loves Tarantino, Coen Brothers, thrillers, science fiction, good animation, the whole lot. He likes to be entertained. I still think OP shouldn’t fake it though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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Sorry, I’m OR, not a DH! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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Look up "best movies" of last 20 (?) years then pick the five you remember liking the most [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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Tell him you loved Ferris Bueller's Day Off - any guy will love that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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Because it's funny and a little bit naughty but also a little sweet and a little romantic and also about guy friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:50 PM Flag
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Top 5: Ghostbusters (girl version), shrek 2, hot fuzz, pan’s Labyrinth, The Ten Commandments. I also love everything by Wes Anderson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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Ok, I'm going to judge you because those movies are just no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:55 PM Flag
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And I don’t care :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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I am even on Wes Anderson and admit I might just not get his movies. Amazingly talented brilliant actors flock to his films so I must be missing something. I have absorbed that I just need to be in a Wes Anderson universe but perhaps I just haven't figured it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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HE should be trying to impress YOU [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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It's an essay question, not pass/fail. Just keeping conversation going. Tell him the truth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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I like your answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:05 AM Flag
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100% Next thing he’ll ask, what are your favorite books, meals, places to visit, c’mon it’ll never end if you are constantly trying to figure out the right answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:30 AM Flag
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Have you already had the ‘what are your five favorite books’ discussion? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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Return of the Jedi; The Exorcist; Apocalypse Now; Halloween I and II; Fight Club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:05 AM Flag
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DH: OK, RotJ and not Empire Strikes Back would be a red flag for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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Ok, how about all three Star Wars originals. Count them as one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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DH: Cheating! But if you're gonna call that one collective work, that'd be fine by me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:14 AM Flag
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Yes, collective works! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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Dial M for Murder; Sunset Boulevard; The Postman Always Rings Twice; Double Indemnity; Body Heat with Kathleen Turner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:16 AM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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What?! Who doesn't like film noir? You're silly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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This post makes me sad. You said that you are older. This is a worry that a young person has. If you could rent any movie tonoight, what would it be? What dialogue do you know by heart? Trying to impress a man is a problem that young women have. At your age,, you should know that you are fine as you are and if he doesnt like you, so be it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:20 AM Flag
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Chinatown; The Shining; The Conversation (Gene Hackman); The Godfather I and II; The Candidate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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wow. how old are you? the conversation leads me to believe you are over 60. good list. im 50 btw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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I'm 50, I like old movies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:30 AM Flag
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We should hang! Me too! Never heard anyone my age who knew of that flick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Which one? I'm 50 and every one in the above list were classics from my childhood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:42 AM Flag
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the conversation with gene hackman. its not like at age 4 or 5 this movie would interest you! im the same age. saw it as a teen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:01 PM Flag
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Young Frankenstein; Monty Python and the Holy Grail; Dirty Rotten Scoundrels; Caddyshack; Meatballs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:21 AM Flag
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This is a list that says something about you, for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:23 AM Flag
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I know, it says that I have a great sense of humor! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:26 AM Flag
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lol. i feel like i know you from this list. you are 48, from the east coast, maybe Ny, philly or maryland, Boston? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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I am 50 from west coast of Canada but I moved to NY as soon as I could [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:30 AM Flag
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Got the age at least! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Somehow, Canada in general feels more like east coast of America to me. Lol. Weird I know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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OR: OMG, not at all! It is much less intellectual and sophisticated. Especially the west coast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 04:39 AM Flag
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Do me now... Eighth Grade, Life Is Beautiful, Clueless, Vanilla Sky, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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You are 38, went to NYU. First went to Europe as a teen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:34 AM Flag
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OOOH, I love that you think I'm 38. You're off by 10 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 03:14 PM Flag
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OP. So i am conversant in Monty Python ... will I sink myself if I like Caddshack or Meatballs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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Because one of my favorite movies is Stepbrothers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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You are a guy, I think. A 20 yr old guy in college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:34 AM Flag
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in 1985 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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in 1985 I was a 16yo girl in high school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 04:40 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:43 AM Flag
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The Princess Bride; LOTR & The Hobbit - extended versions; Baz Luhrmann's Romeo + Juliet; Moulin Rouge; Sound of Music [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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oh you and I would get along [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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^ also Zeffirelli's Romeo and Juliet with Olivia Hussey - so good! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:34 AM Flag
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Oh, I love Baz Luhrmann's Romeo and Juliet too. -np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:07 AM Flag
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so good! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:10 AM Flag
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Christmas Vacation, The Great Outdoors, Coming to America/Beverly Hills Cop (Tie on the Eddie Murphy Movies), This is 40, Aristocats (the disney cartoon not that other movie). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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Coming To America & The Blues Brothers are two of my most favorite movies :). I also love Steel Magnolias the First Indiana Jones and Dirty Dancing. I feel old typing this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:45 AM Flag
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hah Steel Magnolias is great. I'm from a town about an hour and a half from Natchitoches. That movie is still big business there so you aren't too old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:58 AM Flag
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Also love Coming to America, was so sad the last time I was coming to New York and had thought a McDowel's had opened in New Jersey but it turned out to be an april fools joke or something and they opened one for one day in LA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:00 AM Flag
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They have the golden arches - I have...the golden arcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:54 AM Flag
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I would list Coming to America and Dirty Dancing. I watch them all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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sorry to hijack but... I hate this aspect of dating so much. I just had a short relationship with a guy that I thought might get really serious. he was really sweet and had an interesting life that i wanted to know more about... but the only way he knew how to try to relate and get to know each other was to talk about his favorite bands and all the shows he has seen live, and to recommend movies to me that he loved and thought i should watch. I honestly feel like people's taste in media properties has very little to do with their compatibility and men are so immature when they think this is how to know if a woman is right for you. it's only one step up from "i wish i had a girlfriend who loved video games as much as i do" end rant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:46 AM Flag
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So this - DH and I have opposite taste in all forms of entertainment. I am lonely for concert going friends however. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:49 AM Flag
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On the other hand, there are probably vast swaths of people who would be absolutely all about talking about even the dumbest of shows or games if only the other person feels the same. No shame in that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:50 AM Flag
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IKR? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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I love LA noir films: Chinatown, The Black Marble, LA Confidential, Night Moves, The Long Goodbye, The Maltese Falcon, The Late Show, The Big Fix etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:50 AM Flag
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LA NOIR: The Big Fix, The Long Goodbye, Chinatown, LA Confidential, The Black Marble, The Maltese Falcon, ec. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:56 AM Flag
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Jaws, halloween, sound of music, Shawshank, pretty woman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:57 AM Flag
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Halloween AND sound of music. Kind of creepy combo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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North By Northwest, Kind Hearts and Coronets, Tie Me Up Tie Me Down, Raise the Red Lantern, The Big Easy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:22 AM Flag
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You are 52, from nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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48. Well done!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 02:36 AM Flag
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it was The Big Easy and the Almodovar reference that gave u away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:03 PM Flag
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Raise the Red Lantern - that's a great movie! - I should watch that again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 04:41 AM Flag
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Lebowski. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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Manhattan, Sound of Music, Gone with the Wind, Wizard of Oz, The Talented Mr. Ripley. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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Single White Female, Hand that Rocks the Cradle, Fatal Attraction, Baby Mama, Pat - The Movie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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OMG, hysterical to put Pat the Movie with a bunch of crazy lady thrillers! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 04:40 AM Flag
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Men in Black, Out of Africa, Fatal Attraction, The Godfather, The Big Short. And I'm an intellectual, FYI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 02:16 AM Flag
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If he’s a pop culture junkie and you list stuff like eat pray love, yeah it would probably make him think you have cheesy taste. But at his age if he let that stop him it would show pathetic immaturity. So if this list is a test for him, it could also be a test for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 11:33 AM Flag
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This is a great opportunity to see what kind of person he is. Be honest about your faves - even the ultra cheesy "chick flicks". Any man worth being in a relationship will not belittle you for it or try to paint himself as some expert cinefile. You don't need that kind of douche in your life, trust me. My DH went to film school, and I've never seen The Godfather. He could care less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 04:17 PM Flag
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Agree with many of the responders: be you. The biggest mistake I ever made while dating was being someone I'm not and trying to impress and seem interesting. Which, by the way, is different for every single person. With that being said, my favorite five: You've Got Mail (quintessential NY), The Contender (Joan Allen), Sound of Music (yes!), 300 and Any Given Sunday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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^^ and I've never watched Goodfellas. Or ET. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55924773 [ Reply | More
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