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09.05.19, 00:55 AM General Topics
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Pet Peeve, when you get a BM invites sans kids. What am I supposed to do with them? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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Sitter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:57 AM Flag
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what is BM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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Bar mitzvah? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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A Bar or a Bat Mitzvah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:12 AM Flag
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A bowel movement. Some people invite people to celebrate their largest bowel movements. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:39 AM Flag
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HAHA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:06 AM Flag
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What do you wear? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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And how much money do you give? Multiples of two? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:01 PM Flag
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hahahaha you're funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:15 PM Flag
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Get a sitter or don’t go. What’s the big deal. An invitation is not a summons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:18 AM Flag
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+1. Go or don’t go. No big deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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My cousin just did this - my kids aren't invited to his daughter's BM. Why? It's not a wedding. I would understand if they were struggling financially, but they are very wealthy and its going to be an over-the-top blow out with hundreds of their closest (adult?) friends. Rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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Your attitude is rude, they just don't want children at the BM, if you don't like it just don't go but you have no right to judge them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:41 AM Flag
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She has every right to judge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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i disagree. people can throw whatever kind of party they want, you can go or not go. don't have opinions on their party, just do what works for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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I'm not saying she shares it with the hosts, but agree, she doesn't have to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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It's a celebration for a CHILD. Seriously, never heard of this. And, FWIW, I am Jewish, I live in Manhattan, and I've been to at least 60 bar/bat mitzvahs in past 5 years, everything for simple lunches to multi-million dollar parties. Never seen a mitzvah without kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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Np we are planning a bar mitzvah. There aren't a lot of venues for 250 that are under 200 a person. So yes we are inviting some people without their kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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If its a coworker's kids, ok. If its a first cousin's kids, not ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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My first cousins kids are invited. Dh has 45 first cousins (and their children are our age). I dont think we are getting to all of those kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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45 first cousins?! Is he a Jewish Duggar? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:39 AM Flag
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Cousins are in sixties so many have kids in thirties. Including them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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Most venues charge much less for kids. Ours was $200/adult, $50/kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:05 AM Flag
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It is a space thing as well. 175 mandayory family. Then family friends. Then his friends. Then our friends. Have to cut somewhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:10 AM Flag
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Also, I invited their kids to my kids BM! (They found an excuse to skip it). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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It sounds as if they just don't like you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:38 AM Flag
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A bat or bar mitzvah is an adult event. The child is becoming an adult in the community and taking on the adult responsibilities of the religion. It is not unusual or rude to exclude children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:41 AM Flag
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Wait. It’s a celebration for a child. No children will be there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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No many children will be there. Just not OPs kids. She doesnt say how she knows the family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:11 AM Flag
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The Bar Mitzvah invites HIS/her friends, but guests don't get to bring their random children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:39 AM Flag
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Are OP’s kids friends or contemporaries of the BM boy,or,girl? If not, I get why they weren’t invited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:05 AM Flag
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Maybe they were very young and not contemporaries of the BM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.06.19, 12:56 AM Flag
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Weddings I'm cool w/no kids, BMS are parties FOR kids. If a family is super wealthy, they should allow kids & just hire a bunch of sitters and have a small kid area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:08 AM Flag
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How do you know how wealthy anyone here is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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It's like a wedding. Some are not with kids. Hire a sitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 02:23 AM Flag
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Except it’s literally an event for kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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It's an event for 13 year old kids...maybe her kids are much younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:24 AM Flag
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Tween doesn’t want little kids there because they feel it’s a party for them and parents don’t want little kids there so people can feel relaxed and able to socialize. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:51 PM Flag
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Not really. It's a coming of age ritual. It can be 3 hours in a temple and then a party if a family chooses. It's not a party alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 11:42 AM Flag
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Are your kids a lot younger ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:15 AM Flag
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Maybe your kids are a pain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:39 AM Flag
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Never been to one, so cannot relate. We went to adult-only weddings though, it's awesome to go to a party and not have to wrangle your kids, if you can manage a babysitter, do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 03:58 PM Flag
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Hire a sitter: if they're not invited then they're not invited. When I nannied I would often stay the night with my charges if their parents had an event. I'd wear sweats instead of my uniform and we would do movie nights - the kids loved it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 04:07 PM Flag
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I'm stuck on "uniform" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 06:26 PM Flag
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It didn't bother either them or me... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Uh get a sitter? I don’t invite friends kids and they don’t invite mine. Who cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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I didn't invite kids of our friends. The kids had never met each other. They were too young to enjoy the party (under 5) which was exceedingly loud and crowded. They would have been a drain on friends. Saw this when my own kids were little and we had to leave so many parties early. Always invite family kids no matter the age because they know each other and will deal with whatever situation to be together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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