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09.04.19, 14:28 PM General Topics
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A lot of tension with sil built up over the years - I invited her and her family for the Jewish holidays and she said she can’t make it because she is flying back from a work trip. FWIW the holiday is a Sunday and she’s a pharma rep. I mean is that credible? I feel like I’m done. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 09.04.19, 02:28 PM Flag
 

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So be done. Just be polite and follow her lead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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This is your husband's sister? Or brother's wife? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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Brother’s wife [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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Is your brother going to come without her? That's a win win in my book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:37 PM Flag
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Yes. Just upsetting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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I know. I posted here before about my disappointing relationship with my sisters. I'm closer to friends than family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:29 PM Flag
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You don't need her. Do your holiday and forget about her. Don't invite her next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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Maybe she doesn't want to come. Win/win for both of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:35 PM Flag
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She doesn't want to come. Leave it alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. My sister's family has rejected us. Not completely, we still see them on holidays but that's it. I have not been to their house in years and she is a big time hostess (I know from Instagram). We live in the same town. It sucks, I don't know why this happened (we used to socialize a lot) and frankly affects my worldview (ie makes me feel like a loser) but there is nothing I can do about it except to keep plugging away trying to make new friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:43 PM Flag
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Sorry to hear that. Are you sure it isn’t something along the lines of waiting for you to reciprocate and then it just snowballed when you didn’t and became its own thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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Wow, I just want to tell you that you are not alone. My brother and his family have done the same thing to us, though they live farther away. Complete radio silence. It's baffling, because we didn't have a blow-out or anything. His wife is a very strong personality, and while I 100 percent hold my brother responsible for ghosting us, I also feel that it suits her to not have to deal with us. I know from past situations that she prioritizes her family over my brother's, but at some point they just dropped us. It's just really sad. My kids have no relationship with their cousins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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NP I have a nearly identical situation, but there was a blow-out a couple of years ago. I really miss my brother, and we already lost another brother about 20 yrs ago. I never thought this could happen to us. Current political situation combined with aging parent issues and SIL who seems to resent my parents is what broke us apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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Ask yourself: Why do you want her there when you don't get along? Her not coming is 100% a good thing. You celebrate with your brother without the tension. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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If you don't like her why are you forcing family togetherness? My family does this and I finally just refused to participate. Everyone wants to pretend for one day that we have good relationships? No thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:50 PM Flag
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Why are you pushing this? You don't get along with her. You probably don't want to spend time with her and it's mutual. She gave you a perfectly fine reason for being unavailable. Whether she's lying or not, who cares? It sounds like you're digging for dirt here. Let it gooooooooooo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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Who cares? Sounds like you don't like her anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:33 PM Flag
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I think it’s very possible. My company likes to make us fly on weekends so that they do t lose a work day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 04:02 PM Flag
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Have you ever talked to your brother about it? One on one. Just say to him hey, is there anything going on with Amy? Did I do something? For all you know 1) you did (sorry) or 2) they're having a tough time in their marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 04:46 PM Flag
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Hey, my sibling didn't even respond to my repeated emails asking about getting together for the holidays. Didn't even respond! I'm inviting friends over instead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 05:35 PM Flag
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I have given up on thinking of my SILs as my relatives. Makes it easier to medium chill them. Don't give her the power of making you feel bad if she declines. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 06:44 PM Flag
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sorry to hear this, but It might be credible. I used to do a lot of work travel and frequently my travel days were on weekends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:21 AM Flag
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