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09.03.19, 19:54 PM General Topics
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Men always marry younger. So unfair. Went to a wedding, groom was 40. Bride is 30. He wants kids ASAP. He wins. Why do they always marry younger?! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 09.03.19, 07:54 PM Flag
 

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Marry a younger man. Solved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Rare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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Irrelevant. If it's what you want, go do it. There's no law. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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Because youth is prized in women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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Fertility. I didn’t say i agreed with it. I am just stating that this is how it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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This. The unfortunate truth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:50 PM Flag
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why the f do you think? honestly. Oh no! are you an alien learning about the human species on urbanbaby? my apologies! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:11 PM Flag
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Youth is prized in men too, but youth also means lower socio-economic standing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:36 PM Flag
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No they don't. Most people I went to college with married their contemporaries. I think the age sometimes widens as people get older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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I agree. But having kids at 40 is not ideal for BOTH men and woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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A 10 year difference isn't the norm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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What about 7? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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What is normal in 2019? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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Dh is 9 years older than me. And many of the moms I met in my local mom group in UMC Brooklyn were married to guys 10 years older. I think its more a testament that these days guys in their early-mid 30s generally aren't ready to settle down and women are. So they end up with older men who are done with the games and BS and never really got into the whole Tinder/Match thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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^ Not to say some of those couple didn't meet online, I meant people that use those sites solely for hooking up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Within a 3 year gap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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According to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_age_at_first_marriage#Americas_(incomplete) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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And you have gleaned this information from where? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201904/what-we-know-about-age-gaps-in-dating-love-and-marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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I got married last year and DH is a little over a year older than me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Men die sooner then women. Eh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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Why would a women want a man 7+ years older? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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Why not? When I was 25 men my age were still really immature and unsettled in their lives. I married DH who is 8 years older and we've been together for almost 25 years. A good partner in life is hard to come by so why limit your choices? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Love? My DH almost 20 yrs older. Not rich. He’s still fit and healthy. 2 awesome DCs. I realize I may outlive him and/or have to care for him, but that could happen if we were same age. My DF’s boyfriend who she’s been with for 5 years after divorcing her much older DH, just died of cancer at 29. So you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:29 PM Flag
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Her boyfriend was 10 years younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:30 PM Flag
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That is about the ages DH and I were when we got married. It wasn't some huge scandal. Whats the big deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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So this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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Hi MRA troll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Because men are more established at this age and they get to pick and choose. A younger woman is generally more attractive than a woman in her 40s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Does anyone see this demographic changing? About 50% of my married friends divorced, and of that 50% all are dating/remarried to men anywhere from one to eleven years younger. They all remarried seemingly great guys too, with comparable professions, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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It's retribution for when younger women chose men who were older & more established. Things have a way of evening out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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The only people who are worried about this are Incels who can't get a date with anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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I don’t think most guys can pull this off but the ones that do are usually tall, good looking and successful. Their ability to pull a younger women is usually more tied to this than their age. Often they end up with women who are not very career oriented and are just looking for a man to support them so age is less important than the ability to provide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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Wow, way to generalize [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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That made me laugh out loud. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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LOL, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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It did make me LOL. Sorry you didn’t witness it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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why does he win? This was DH and I . had dc when I was 35 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Idk, so find an older guy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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Most of my female friends' husbands are younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 11:00 PM Flag
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I'm more than 10 years older than my dh + have several couple friends where the woman is older too. it's not always the case at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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I don’t know my aunt married 25 years younger and had a baby at 47- they have now been married over 20 years- another close friend the same married 30 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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It makes sense biologically, young men don't have a hard time impregnating even older women. So, as a woman in your 40s desiring to have kids, you should really look for much younger men, or sperm donors if doing this on your own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:24 PM Flag
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i'm older than my husband. my mom is significantly older than my stepdad. its not as uncommon as you think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 11:16 AM Flag
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it actually is uncommon. Your particular family is not reflective of the rest of the world. Obviously couples where the man is signifivcantly younger than the women EXIST, but its not common. Its the exception. eyeroll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:09 PM Flag
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So you have just noticed that women are prized for youth, beauty, fertility and that men are prized on wisdom and earning power. Welcome to feminism 101. As a women, the older you get, the less you are valued by society. As long as a man is successful in business, he's valued. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:14 PM Flag
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It's the patriarchal way of the world where power and money belong to men, it's not purely biology. If you were to reverse who has most of the economic power, you will see older women marrying younger men and having kids with them. As it is in any society, young men and women would always get together anyway and you still will see plenty of couples of the same age, men and women in their 20s and early 30s aren't looking to date too much outside of their age group unless they are looking purely for economic benefits. Biologically older men and women are both affected by aging, men are having problems in that area too and it's not easy for them to impregnate women with declining fertility if their is declining too. They naturally have to seek much younger women and older women with declining fertility naturally want to seek younger men. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:31 PM Flag
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Older men marry younger women, because their genetic material is aging too, and their chances to have healthy offspring diminish with women their age. If you notice, young men don't have this tendency or urge to date or marry younger women. Those who get together in their 20s tend to be the same age couples. There is no biological need for young men to want younger women and they are not even averse to older women, they are virile enough. Men who stay single until they are 40 are a different story. Women in their 40s desiring to become pg on their own don't seek sperm of older men, they go for young sperm donors and for a reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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Have you seen the French President? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 05:32 PM Flag
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Five years older than DH. Ditto for another good friend. Slightly smaller span for another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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The thing is, I'm 40 and can't imagine wanting to marry a 30 yo man. I guess he'd be better-looking but I imagine someone really immature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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But if you were looking to have kids by yourself, would you choose a 40-something sperm donor or a 30- year old one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.05.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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