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09.03.19, 01:04 AM General Topics
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I pulled a crazy girl move (and, yes, I know I shouldn't be wasting my brain energy on it). Around the holidays, I met someone on a dating site...cool, fun, very attractive & attractive. We chatted via text for about a week, had a great time over drinks. Slept together about 5-6 times over the course of the month. Texting slowed way down so I asked if everything was ok. He said his wife (remember, they were separated) was diagnosed with breast cancer so he had to break it off. My heart broke for him - 3 young girls, etc. Occasionally I would check in to say hi and we'd exchange a few words. In June, we fell back into texting and end up sleeping together twice more. The last time I saw him, we made plans to have a sleep over the upcoming week. Exchanged a few more texts after that and then he disappeared the 1st week of August. Never to be heard from again. Really f'ing weird. I sent 4 short texts over the course of 3 days and stopped. Fast forward to last week. I re-joined the dating site. Low and behold, there he was. I sent a short note asking what happened. No reply so I left it alone. However, this is where I went crazy girl. I made a fake profile. All the details are pretty much me but the picture is not me. He pinged this version of me almost as soon as I posted the profile. Chat followed, we shared more pics and he said "I" was drop dead gorgeous. It's been a great week of texting and thinks "I" am the cat's meow. The part that's absolutely nuts, he said he hasn't slept with anyone in years, he's really rusty, etc., etc. I probed to see if I could get to the truth (i.e. he slept with the real me a bunch of times) and he stuck to his lie. I also found out that his wife never had breast cancer. Anyway, he invited me on a date and it's scheduled for tomorrow - it's been on the books for 4 days. Obviously "I'm" going to stand him up. I want him to feel what it's like to get ghosted. Yes, I know it's immature and dumb, blah, blah. Should I just completely disappear on text, give him a 5 mins heads-up that I'm not coming....? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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^^one of the attractives in the 1st line should say separated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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no, 5min in say you had an emergency. Repeat. "travel for work" and keep it going. Plan another date. Repeat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:08 AM Flag
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^also, this is the best thing I've read on UB all day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:10 AM Flag
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Me too. Married for 25 years and here for this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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OP: lol. The real me works, the "fake" me doesn't work. He invited me to the "it" restaurant in our area - see & be seen type place. I'm sopped to meet him at 6:45 for a cocktail before 7;30 dinner reservation. he asked for a corner table, etc. So would you text at 7:00? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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Fake you got a last minute engagement party invite to a close friend (one of the Kennedys). You'd love for your Kennedy friend to meet this guy next time they come visit you. (guy sounds like social climber). Maybe lay some groundwork by mentioning fake you's fake Kennedy (or similar) friend already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:27 AM Flag
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OP: he's very "fancy"...a ton of money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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Then he might actually know real Kennedys. I'd try to keep the lies to a minimum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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np -- IDK, he lies about everything and is clearly some kind of sicko asshole sex addict. Hard to know what else he is lying about (btdt) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:25 AM Flag
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np -- fake you's fake Kennedy friend -- I'm crying!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:24 AM Flag
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Lol this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 05:18 PM Flag
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Ahahahahahaha I think this is fucking great. Enjoy fucking w/ his head [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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OP: As sick as it is, I can't wait. He's the quintessential Wall St guy - confident, handsome, big personality. I'm sure he hasn't been stood up in his life. Help me execute perfectly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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OP: one more thing....he lied about his wife having breast cancer. WTF. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:15 AM Flag
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pull up wifey's details, send her flowers and condolence card for her cancer. "Ex dh whom I've been dating for over a year told me you have cancer, I hope it's not true but if it is, lots of best wishes. - NotYourName". Let the guy deal with that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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OP: I don't want to involve the wife - that's malicious. I just want to mess with him. I seriously don't understand why he made up such a horrible lie the 1st time and then disappeared the 2nd time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:29 AM Flag
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there are guys like this. Online addicts, only about the next thing, totally into you and then they ghost w some bs excuse and turn up again. Probably still married. I had an experience like this and also did what you did w a fake profile, got him all worked up and ghosted him. You're not the only crazy girl!!! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:31 AM Flag
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This is just cruel. You're better than dragging his wife, OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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OP: I'm not - did you see my comment above? That would be malicious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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You know he lied about the separation too now, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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OP: yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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I think this post is fake because: "in our area"? No one in NYC (where Wall St. guys live) would say this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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OP: I live in Fairfield County (CT)...home to hedge funds and private equity firms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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AH. Hedge funder, not Wall St. I retract accusations of fakery, OP, and wish you luck in your juicy revenge strategy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:36 AM Flag
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^^And I realize that big Wall St. earners live in CT too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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OP: haha...thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:39 AM Flag
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I think you should show up! Make sure you have your camera pulled up so you can capture the look on his face when it dawns on him what is going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:20 AM Flag
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OP: hmmm....I think that's too bold. I think "I" want to completely stand him up and never text him again. I was also thinking of sending a drink to him with a note that says "sorry" (I would call the restaurant and ask the bartender to send him the drink & note) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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DO NOT SHOW UP!!!! That just makes you look pathetic. I like the idea of standing him up, but is he really deserving of a heads up? And certainly don't send this asshole a drink. Just don't show. I'm sure he will reach out to the fake you again and if you still want to you can bait him again and stand him up again. But after the first stand up, it really is time for you to move on. You had a one month relationship with a lying asshole online. Hopefully the sex was good for you. Now move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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No. He will turn or the charm and reel her back in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:28 AM Flag
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OP: or he would put 2+2 together and go nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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No, don’t show up! Continue with the plan and cancel at the last min. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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+1 -- for a guy like this, this will kill him. Best revenge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:32 AM Flag
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You should get a good therapist. Not being unkind, just honest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:24 AM Flag
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np: meh you're no fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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I'd rather be stable than fun, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:39 AM Flag
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OP: I have one. I know it's crazy and I've never done anything like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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Fair enough: Just ask yourself, what's in it for you? But, hey, if it feels powerful and satisfying to let him know you're on to him, then go for it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:41 AM Flag
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OP: the only thing in it for me is satisfaction :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:42 AM Flag
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SHE needs a therapist? Not the guy who lies about his wife having friggen cancer to get laid??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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OP: no - he got laid and then said his wife had cancer when he wanted to end it. After round two, 5 months later he disappeared [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:51 AM Flag
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It's not an either/or proposition [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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^^ And HE isn't posting here. SHE is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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Nah. I think OP sounds awesome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 05:18 PM Flag
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Stand him up once, Mia culpa excuse the next day....dad is dying, had to go to the hospital, make a second date, show up and tell him you’ve already sent his wife the emails/texts from that time she had breast cancer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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or - this is too much drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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That’s entertainnnnment! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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OP: total drama! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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Best plan on this thread...he is the fucking drama queen sleeping around and lying about his wife! OP don't say another word to this fool. He clearly isn't as fancy or successful as he claims if he has to resort to serial fucking of strangers. I met DH at a hedge fund a long time ago. The real players were and continue to be much more discreet. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 03:14 PM Flag
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No -- stand him up but say (your voice catching on tears) you found a lump. Who is his wife's oncologist (just in case)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:25 PM Flag
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OP: one more detail...I told him he should take an uber. He lives about 20 mins away from the restaurant and "I'm" about 25 minutes away. The real me lives 5 mins away from the restaurant. Ha. So once he's stood up, he'll have to get an uber home like a moron. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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You could also put all this energy into meeting a man who is worthy of your time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:53 AM Flag
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OP: I actually just started chatting with someone who seems like a nice guy... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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You have your act together, OP!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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OP: sometimes this is true, sometimes it's not ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:08 AM Flag
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NP. Don't give up! I found DH on Match but I was ghosted/used more times than I'd like to admit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:26 PM Flag
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Please tell us who this turns out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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OP: Definitely!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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At 7:00 you text him and say a friend has had a medical emergency and you can’t make it. But I strongly advise you let it go after that. You are spending way too much energy on something that’s worthless. The guy already wasted 8 months of your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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OP: I like this plan and 100% agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:58 AM Flag
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The medical emergency aspect has a nice symmetry with his mendacity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:05 AM Flag
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OP: you're right - good call out. What is my medical emergency when he asks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:08 AM Flag
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NP: have the emergency & spend 10 more minutes to reschedule 2nd date - he deserves it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:12 AM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:16 AM Flag
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OP: another good idea...what is my medical emergency though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:18 AM Flag
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You just found out you are a whack job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 06:23 AM Flag
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Yes, this!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:45 AM Flag
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Family member has the emergency, not you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:17 AM Flag
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OP: smart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:19 AM Flag
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Yeah, I like this. "I was on my way out the door when my sister called. My nephew broke a glass and cut himself, and DH has their car. I need to take him to ER for stitches. I am so so sorry. Can we please reschedule for Saturday night? Same time, same place, my treat." Then he has to go back to the restaurant and be stood up again. If you're batshit crazy, you could text him Saturday night and say you can't go bc your BF has breast cancer and thinks her DH is cheating on her. lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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OR^^^ This is the most fun I've had all day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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FTW! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 03:15 PM Flag
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No, just no show so then he's left wondering. He will keep corresponding if you cancel for a good reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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Tell him your exdh called to tell you he has breast cancer and desperately needs your support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:14 PM Flag
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OP: haaaaa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:35 PM Flag
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No, no No! Don't give him a heads up to the no show. Just stand him up. Only if and when he text you after or while he is waiting do you give an excuse. If you want to bait him into another date to stand him up again then give a medical/emergency excuse so you can make another date. But frankly, I think you should just stand him up and not respond to further texts asking where are you/what happened. He won't know what to do with that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:18 PM Flag
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I did almost this exact same thing with my ex-dh on a dating site. It was a satisfying one and done. He was/is a sleaze ball scum bag who cheated compulsively and has major sexual issues, so I knew how to reel him in. After so much betrayal and deceit, it felt momentarily satisfying to deceive him. I vote you just no show and never have contact again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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ditto. after this no show, don't waste any more energy on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:18 PM Flag
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I have a feeling you're going to end up blowing it. You seem to really want the payoff that he knows it was you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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Is everyone ignoring the obvious, which is that if you date someone who says they are separated, MOST OF THE TIME THEY ARE LYING. Also, the wife suddenly has breast cancer, ALSO CLEARLY A LIE. You need to stalk people better BEFORE YOU DATE THEM. I hope you have learned from this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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also carry on with the revenge. I would send your fake logon and fake email address, password etc to the wife though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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Leave his wife out of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:39 AM Flag
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She won't believe it if she doesn't want to. But her health is at risk. OP should at least do the right thing and give the wife a fighting chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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+1000. The wife deserves to know. BTDT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:48 AM Flag
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OP: I’m on the fence about this. This type of meddling could affect an entire family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:41 PM Flag
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Him sleeping with anyone with a vagina is already affecting his family. Please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 06:39 PM Flag
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Highly doubt he’s a Wall Street success. More like a drug dealing psycho. No Wall Street big needs a dating app not ha the time to invest like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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+1 (as ex wife who did this to my ex above). I was amazed at the lies my ex spun to women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:39 AM Flag
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OP: out of curiosity, how would I confirm whether he’s separated vs. divorced and if his wife has breast cancer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:37 PM Flag
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OP: out of curiosity, how would I confirm whether he’s separated vs. divorced and if his wife has breast cancer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:37 PM Flag
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OP: out of curiosity, how would I confirm whether he’s separated vs. divorced and if his wife has breast cancer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:37 PM Flag
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OP: out of curiosity, how would I confirm whether he’s separated vs. divorced and if his wife has breast cancer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:37 PM Flag
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OP: out of curiosity, how would I confirm whether he’s separated vs. divorced and if his wife has breast cancer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:39 PM Flag
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NP. I think that's true for men. Not so much for women (or maybe I'm just relying on my own experience). I went on Match after I'd filed for divorce but it wasn't final for 2.5 years. I knew there was zero chance I would reunite with my asshole ex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:08 PM Flag
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Who is the person that you’re using as your cover-up? Someone you know? Anyone he could bump into? Seeing as you sent him a few pics of her.. I got curious about that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:27 AM Flag
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OP: good question - no one I know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:41 PM Flag
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if this guy is really married with 3 young children why would he be fully advertising himself on a dating website where anyone who knows him or his family could see him? and with 3 young children? doesn't make sense...sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 03:14 AM Flag
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Np. Agree men don’t make sense but they do stupid things, when I was single I saw at least 2-3 husbands of women I knew on dating apps. Insane and awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 03:29 AM Flag
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My ex did this. And we we had kids and I was pregnant! "doesn't make sense"...you don't know much about the human condition, do you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 03:30 AM Flag
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np -- men like this -- sex addicts etc -- are so reckless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:37 AM Flag
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When they discover these sites they think no one else knows about them. Lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:44 AM Flag
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almost like maybe they want to get caught? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:19 AM Flag
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I'd say it's not like they want to get caught and imo more "thinking with their other head." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:19 AM Flag
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np- my ex did this. I found out when I put a keylogger on his computer. He was on dating websites AND making fake meetings with escorts from craigslist! I just got a spidey sense something was weird and that inspired me to install the keylogger. He claimed he never met up with any of the people in person, but I really had no idea and the trust was gone. We divorced (not just over this, over many things) and ultimately I got remarried to someone amazing who doesn't partake in this nonsense. But imo it's actually pretty common. Men like to see what's out there when they're bored and imagine themselves having sex with all kinds of different women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:18 AM Flag
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Can you please tell me how to get a keylogger. I think my husband is doing the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 01:27 AM Flag
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I know two men who have done almost exactly this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:18 AM Flag
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Team completely disappear ... it’s worse to wait and wonder [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:21 AM Flag
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Instead of cancelling at last minute, why don't you let him show up and after 20 minutes text him and say Sorry, I came to restaurant and saw you but I just didn't find you that attractive in person. I'm sorry - you just photograph better than you look in person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:51 AM Flag
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OMG, this is PERFECT. OP DO THIS!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:15 AM Flag
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OMG, I LOVE THIS IDEA!!! OP, PLEASE DO THIS!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:21 PM Flag
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This is actually pretty common. My ex-dh made fake dating profiles all the time and flirted/arranged dates behind my back. I found out because I put a keylogger on his laptop. I agree with the text 15-min before - sorry, emergency, can't come. Then slow fade out. He wasted your time, you should waste his time. Turnabout is fair play. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:14 AM Flag
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My ex did almost exactly this right down to the catastrophic excuses to cut it off with the other women before he got too close with them. I ALMOST was going to say you are talking about my ex, however he only has 1 dc so probably not him. (If his name starts with an E, he works in healthcare and lives in Jersey City... that's him!) Anyways... my biggest advice to women who are worried about their dh doing something like this- if he gives you any reason not to trust him, seems sketchy, or just some sort of intuition telling you something- TRUST THAT! We have animal instincts for a reason. Trust your gut is a common expression because it is accurate and really works. By the way- I agree with the poster who said text him 15 minutes after the date and say "sorry, I walked by and you really weren't my type. Best of luck with your future endeavors!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:23 AM Flag
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OP: good idea but this is the type of place that’s quaint - when you walk in, people see. The restaurant leads to a really pretty patio - this is where “we’re” supposed to eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:33 PM Flag
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so, what. let him try to figure out how you saw him, but he didn't see you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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OP- please post an update thread or update this thread after the date!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 09:24 AM Flag
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*lo and behold [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:23 PM Flag
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OP here...it’s Tuesday! I woke up to a good night text sent at 11:30 pm and a good morning text sent at 6:00 am. He’s super excited - already reviewed the wine list, asked for a corner table, Uber-ing so we can “take our time”. Lol. He also said that the 6+ months he was on the dating site were worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 12:29 PM Flag
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Keep us updated! I need some excitement in my life and you’re providing it. LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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Curious, did you use a random picture of a model or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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Ooh this guy is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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OMG I'm dying!!! What a tool! Btw I know you know this but even if this was real, meaning not you, he would do exact same thing he did to teal you. All the guys I know who do this online are still doing it years and years later --- they get ramped up on the fantasy and new sex, the single ones never find "the one" even thought they claim to want to, and yes, many are married. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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Please post an update to THIS post so easy to find. This is great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:09 PM Flag
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OP: GUYS!! Update - he’s been at the restaurant 15 mins and ordered me a drink. I told him I’d be there around 6:45. Meanwhile I’m home watching the weather channel! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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Hysterical! Screw that guy - good for you! Keep us posted on his angry pleas later on when it becomes obvious you aren't showing up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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I posted below about the actress idea. Please send him panicked apology/cancelled text, promising to make up next time ;) so you can pull the actress stunt! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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go you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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bahahahaahah!!! Living for this!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 01:33 AM Flag
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What a cad. Crazy girl move yes but totally warranted. Best thing I read on UB in a long time. Update us please!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Can I try to out do your crazy girl move (which I love)? My dear sweet sister was divorcing her asshole ex. She found his phone open to a dating site. He was on it. Claimed he'd been in a loveless marriage blah blah blah. I posed as his dream girl and pinged him. I was messaging him while he was in court with my sister. I almost set up a date about 1.5 hours away during a blizzard just to see if he'd bite. He did, but I chickened out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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What do you mean you chickened out? Weren’t you going to stand him up anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 04:00 PM Flag
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I was going to keep texting him til he got out there saying I was "almost there". That's the part I chickened out on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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Can you imagine if after reading this post, your dh calls from work and says he has a dinner meeting, so won't be home until later, and then comes home about 25 minutes later?? And you have 3 young girls? Yikes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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OP: guess what....that’s going to be him. Tomorrow his girls are all starting school. You’d think he would have wanted to be him tonight. Oh....that’s right...he’s going to be! Ha. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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WHAT HAPPENED?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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one idea I love - maybe for next time? Hire an actress to approach him at the bar/table, throw a drink in his face and cause a huge scene accusing him of cheating on his wife, etc. Video, upload, make viral etc. This is giving me the giggles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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^even better, have actress walk in and say his wife called her, his wife found his online profile and all his texts, throw drink, walk out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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OK - Why do people post things like this, and then you never hear from them again??????? I know, BECAUSE IT'S FAKE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:03 AM Flag
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She updated just above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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This is probably fake. But the kernel of truth is: the best way to make a guy (or maybe anyone) want you more is to turn them down. Even better - repeatedly. It’s like a law of human nature [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.04.19, 12:52 AM Flag
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