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07.27.08, 10:28 AM General Topics
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I hate HATE that my 3.5 yo son is in daycare 8:30-5:30 three days a week. Feel even sorrier for the kids that are there that many hours 5 days a week. It just feels so incredibly wrong. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
 

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I understand completly. I'm a teacher so a least I get the summer. The werid thing for me is that leaving ds as a baby wasn't as painful as leaving him now that he is 3. There is so much that I want to do with him before he is in school full time and busy with sports and other activites I sometimes feel it's all slipping away. heartbreaking sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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sometimes there is nothing that can be done. Dh and I work fulltime plus (2dc living in Brooklyn) and the kids are at the babysitter 9-5 m-t and 9-1f [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I think it depends a lot on the kid and the daycare. Ds is 5 days a week, but a short day, and he loves it. It is so stimulating for him, and he has been with the same children for three years, so they are very close. I think it can be a wonderful experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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poster above yea my ds's experience so far has sucked. the kids in my class are so happy and close but my little one didn't get that yet keeping fingers crossed for next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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OP: ds's daycare (calls itself a preschool) is wonderful. Small, loving, creative, real teachers, etc. Anyone would say he's happy. But I feel sad (heartbroken) that at 3 yo he is happy because he just doesn't know there's an alternative to a 9-hour day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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He is happy because he is having fun. His ignorance of other situations and ways of being happy doesn't diminish his enjoyment of his current situation. Do you think that he would be more happy with a nanny? I think that some children need more of an individual and comforting approach, and some children need a more social and stimulating approach (assuming that $ or other issues are fine for both). Or are you upset because you feel wrong that he is not with you all day, every day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I don't think he'd be happier with a nanny--I think the ideal would be if I could pick him up at 3 every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Sounds like you're projecting. My 3yo never wanted to leave school at 3pm becauseso manyof her friends were staying for afterschool. It got so bad we switched her to an afternoon program and just let her stay til 5pm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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what's the alternative? a day takes as long as it takes no matter where you are - this makes no sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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'Just to paint the picture of what the alternative is: My ds is not in daycare - but with a p/t time babysitter about 14-18hrs week so that I can work p/t. But, as a result, dh and I have much less income to secure for dc. However, I do understand how quickly this time goes by. 'Just know you're doing the best you can and no matter how you arrange it, it will all be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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you have to find a balance i like my job and want to continue and for sure make the most of every minute I spend with my dcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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true that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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I really like your attitude. Me, I am not a good sahm, and dh and I work each of us at least 45+ hours/week. But we do not rely on anyone ( gov't, family) to help us out, no credit card debt. Plus, ds will soon start playgroup, then next fall preschool, so i feel like every penny helps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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This post makes me sad. I'm a WAHM and am sending my dd to all day playgroup at my neighbor's in the Fall when she's 14 mos. She is way too active and social to stay with a nanny (we've had 2 since she is 3mos). My dh and I both need to work, so I don't see an alternative. And I feel this is the best for her and she'll grow with this program and enter their preschool when age appropriate. Why does the OP make me feel like a bad mother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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