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07.24.08, 10:18 AM General Topics
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We live in NYC. Grandparents are in LA. They have been begging us to visit. Our DS is 1 year. We have been resisting b/c of the time change, the flight, and the overall adjustments of staying at a new place. Should we just give in or is it the nightmare we expect it to be? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.24.08, 10:18 AM Flag
 

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Go. It won't be a nightmare unless you make it a nightmare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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How exactly would we MAKE it a nightmare, other than by going? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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by giving yourselves unnecessary stress. Things won't be as "routine" as you might be used to, but if you adapt you won't have a problem. Actually, it would have been easier if you'd traveled earlier, as db would be more used to it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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You can't but if you go with awaiting for disaster to happen attitude, a disaster will probably happen. We took DS to L.A. and England and had no problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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ITTTTTTTTTA. Have been traveling with dcs since they were 6 weeks old with no problems. Occasionally a screwed-up schedule for a night or 2, but isn't a visit with grandparents worth more than your routine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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OP: The way I see it is that they can get on the plane and come to NYC. Way easier. If they don't want to then TFB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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wow, you are incredibly self-centered, has anyone ever told you that? maybe they can't travel, don't have the money, or want to show you and db their hometown? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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I'm sure my 1yo DS would really love to be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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your child will have fun wherever you go if you go with a good attitude. Get over yourself, stop overthinking, and go visit your in-laws! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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That's the problem. She doesn't have a good attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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no, she doesn't - she sounds incredibly self-centered [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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She won't enjoy it so she doesn't want to go. That's the bottom line, not the kid having a wee bit of jet lag [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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oh, I totally agree. I think her dh should take db and leave her at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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But she might like that. Better to take her with and torture her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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oh, I agree, but with such a PITA the in-laws might not want her... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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That kind of attitude - you're definitely going to have problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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Agreed. It's only 3 hour difference!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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What's the strategy for adjusting the sleep schedule? Would DS go to bed at 5PM PST rather than 8PM EST? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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He goes to sleep when he's tired. That's what I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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no, you just let them adapt the same way you do... you're over thinking this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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I would keep ds on regular schedule. It is only a week. And then you get to sleep in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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you're really over thinking this. Flexibility and adaptability are two important traits in adults and children. I think you'll all be fine, just take the first step, figure it out and adapt....boy goes to bed when he's tired. Maybe will be cranky first day. World will not crumble as a result of that fact. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Do it - I can't believe you haven't already. We're in NYC, one set of grandparents in SoCal (not LA) the other in Europe, and we've visited both since dcs were 6weeks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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These are dh's parents, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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Right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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that explains it all. get over yourself and go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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ITA - good cath or! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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why don't you just stay and send db with dh? seems to me that you don't want go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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PS - it sounds like this really might not be able your son and his adjustment. Do you talk to them regularly? Do YOU want to go, regardless of your son? If not, own up to that and deal with that, rather than blaming it on the kid and his schedule. Maybe your dh and ds go together by themselves and you have your first alone weekend? Kids are adaptable, but only if you model it for them. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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I've gone btw London and New York about every 3 months since db was 6 months old. Lots of people travel with babies and while it's more difficult than traveling without them it's not so bad. You can easily take a 1 year old from NY to California. Suck it up and go visit your in-laws. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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it doesnt sound like you've been resisting for anything other than you dont feel like going. this is not a big deal! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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this is insane. both my kids went from NYC to california at less than a year for vacations. it was not a huge deal to adjust, and i find it odd that you haven't taken the baby to see grandparents yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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I agree with the above posters that you need to look at the other reasons you don't want to go. I also live in NYC and my family is in SoCal and we visit about 3-4 times a year. I often make the trip by myself which can be tough carrying the junk but my DD does great! She adjusts better than I do. I suggest taking the 5pm flight because you might get your DS to get a little sleep and give you a break. Once you're there, he'll be more apt to sleep right away and start getting adjusted. I also recommend you try and stay at least a week. Buy the ticket - go! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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You have to go. Yes, it's going to be disrupting ot DS' schedule but you should still go. Just got back from a trip from NYC to LA with my 1 year old and yes, it took him almost 3 weeks to readjust upon returning to NYC. But I wouldn't trade that for a visit with my family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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