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07.24.08, 09:25 AM General Topics
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How old should girls be before they have a Glamour Girl Party? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
 

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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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Really? I think that is already too old. Some of the moms I know have taken their 5-6 yos for mani/pedi already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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taking them for a mani/pedi at 6 is one thing, playing up "beauty" and sex at a party is another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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who said anything about sex? it's just another form of pretend play doing make-up, hair and nails. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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pretend play that reinforces certain ideas about what women are supposed to be/look like.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Oh, and dressing up your girl as a Princess and reading her Cinderella doesn't reinforce an even worse idea? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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no, we play princesses as heroes, rescuing people and being active and smart. Not sitting arund being painted up so she can look pretty for boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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You take yourself way too seriously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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not really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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And are you a stay at home mom or you out there in the world participating and making a contribution? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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why are you so angry? I work (and I think SAHMs make a contribution too). I just don't want my DD force fed consumerist crap about needing makeup to be "glamorous." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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or below - ITA with you (fwiw, my boy enjoys dressup and playing prince as much as the girls enjoy princesses, and we plan major escapades to "rescue" the dog from terrifying situations, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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I am deeply offended that you choose to say that a SAHM is not participating or contributing to society. It's our responsibility to raise and form young people who will contribute to this world. I pity the child who does not receive proper guidance and thinks everything should just be handed to them because they are pretty or they just deserve it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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Who said anything about being pretty for boys? People in general should take pride in their appearance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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but a Glamour Girl party, having 5yos put on makeup, etc is not age-appropriate and is only teaching young girls that those things make them more attractive (presumably to the opposite sex). No need for that - teach your 5yo to brush her hair and teeth, keep her face and hands clean, etc. Move on to makeup when she's a teen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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ITA. Why do women wear makeup? to look good. Why do they want to look good? To attract a mate. that's the MO of every ad and woman's magazine--you are flawed and need makeup, creams, powders, botex etc. to look good. Why does a 5yo need that crap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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they don't. I am an attractive woman and I do wear some makeup (mostly to hide blemishes and dark circles that I am not fond of, I'm never heavily "made-up"), but I see no need to put lipstick on my 5yo for any reason! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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I don't understand the "presumably to the opposite sex". Maybe that's what you were taught, but some women just like to look good. Period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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I like to look good too, but I would never consider "glamorizing" my young daughter. When she's in high school she can if she wants to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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so you've never read a woman's magazine? watched an ad? I've nver woman makeup, so it's never been an issue for me. Good for you if you like makeup, but i don't think 5yos need to be taught that they need it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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that's not what Glamour Girls is all about. Taking pride in your appearance would be a "hey let's brush our teeth and comb our hair" party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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lol! that's almost exactly what I posted above! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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I swear, I could use one of those parties these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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lol, me too! One of my dd's HATES to brush her hair/have it brushed, which is a nightmare since she has curls. Maybe if she saw all her friends doing it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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ITTA! Women dress up for other women much more than they dress up for men. Most men can't tell you if a woman or girl has her nails painted or not but most women notice right away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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np - I do neither. My dds have a large assortment of dressup clothes ranging from old bridesmaid dresses, princess costumes, armour, doctor outfits and many other things. And sorry, but Cinderella was at least able to help herself with the help of a strong woman! (i'm joking here) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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sorry, but the idea of a "glamour girl" party goes beyond pretend play, and I don't think makeup is appropriate for a 5 or 6 yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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np: ITTA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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ick, never [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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87 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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I think all you moms who hate the idea of glamour girl or make-up parties were probably not the hot, popular girls in your high school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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you can think that if you want to but it doesn't make it true. I am a beautiful woman and I don't want my beautiful daughters being tramped up when they are children. Who cares if it makes them more "hot or popular"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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np: ITA. There are a lot of things out there in the world trying to sexualize young girls--they don't need their parents to help them with that. Parents should be setting some limits and teaching them what's appropriate. 5 y.o.'s with make-up = not appropriate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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I guess that responder was one of the incredibly insecure "popular hot girls" in high school... I pity people like her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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it's the kind of parenting that leads to 11yos giving bjs so they can be "popular." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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yes, and it is really disgusting and sad. I hope my daughters can remain children a bit longer than that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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ITA. And I have higher ambitions for my DD than to be the hot chick in high school. how sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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your priorities are so screwed up... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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you sound bitter, as if you probably didn't wind up with a guy who was a good meal ticket for you. i'm sorry for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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wow, I really hope you aren't teaching your daughter your values. If you must know, my dh is a very successful lawyer but I come from money and wouldn't need him to be a "meal ticket" for me regardless. I happen to love him very much and he loves me. I'm sorry your life is so terrible you have to resort to this pettiness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I hope you are kiddling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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eeeewwww. What on earth can you possibly mean? Promise that you don't really believe your primary purpose in life is to marry "the best guy" and that you don't plan to teach your daughter the same garbage. It's 2008 honey, try best education, best job, best volunteer opportunities...c'mon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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I'm on the fence about the whole thing concerning Glamour Girl Parties but I have to say that as a kid I loved playing with makeup and today I barely ever wear it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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but I'm sure it wasn't foisted on you as a way to look "hot" or even "cute" the way GG parties are. Its like Hannah Montana and HSM being popular among 6yos - not age-appropriate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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No it wasn't foisted on me but I remember (and I'm showing my age here) thinking Brooke Shields was not and wanting to look like her all glammed up. I think if you have solid parents you out grow stuff like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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^^^ Sorry, meant she was "hot" not "not" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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I think it is all about the parenting, you're right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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I remember the Brooke Shields thing--but that was when I was in high school, not kindergarten. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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I was 12ish so no not kindergarten but hardly an adult [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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But also not 5. I agree about the HSM and Hannah Montana being totally inappropriate for 5 y.o.'s. There were several girls in DS's kinder class very into that stuff (and the parents encouraged it) and those girls were honestly the "mean girls" of the class. Total queen bees obsessed w/ their standing and playing one another off of each other, and sometimes making things tough for the non-mean/non-alpha girls. I think you can't blame it all on HSM etc but that is a factor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I have had the same experience. My kids know about HSM but they're not into it (I don't let them watch Disney Channel and Nickelodeon, I don't think it is appropriate for 3, 4 and 6yos), and I wouldn't ever encourage it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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I really haven't seen HSM or Hannah Montana but I don't think they're as bad ad Brooke and her "nothing gets between me and my Calvins" type sexuality. I thought those things were kind of wholesome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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not wholesome, no. (I agree about Brooke being not appropriate, but then again, I didn't know about her until I was about 11, which is very different than 5) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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yes, I was too...I think BS was overly sexualized as a young teen though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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hear hear! f*** that. It's a tragedy that small girls become sexualized, consumerized etc at such a young age. sickening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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I got to tell you the not hot girls in high school were the ones that needed the makeup. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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barf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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extra barf. This message board is not for me. Where are the ivy educated women who work outside the home and adore their kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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