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07.23.08, 19:40 PM Preschool/Kids
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wwyd? dd is 5 and is in a summer camp with mixed ages (3-5 yrs) at the preschool where she recently finished pre-K. for the past year she has been allowed to go down the hall, to use the bathroom during class, and has not had any accidents. in the summer camp, they seem to have a rule that kids all go together. the other day, dd did not have to use the bathroom when the other kids went, but needed to go a little later and was told it was too late. she told them she really needed to go, but they said no, and she ended up pooping her pants. should i say something to the teacher? going together seems like a rule that makes sense for younger kids, but dd is 5 and knows if she needs to poop or not. wondering what others would do in this case. we've encouraged her to go to the bathroom when the other kids do, but everyone's body is different...and not everyone needs to go at the same time. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Preschool/Kids 07.23.08, 07:40 PM Flag
 

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what camp? would def. say something. didn't the teacher notice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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the teacher(s) noticed b/c then someone had to take her to the bathroom to get cleaned up and changed. they could have saved themselves this job, and saved dd the humiliation/discomfort of pooping her pants if they'd just let her go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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sue the school? Kidding, but where are these farms that don't treat kids like they're human? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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i'd be mad. bet your dd was embarrassed. i would point out to them that your 5 yo hasn't soiled herself since she was a toddler and the fact that they would not allow her to go to the bathroom was inappropriate. and going forward, they will grant her some level of trust. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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from op: thanks for the replies. i don't want to make a big deal out of this, but feel i should say something to the teacher. i'm glad it doesn't sound like i'm overreacting here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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this is a matter for the camp administrator. completely unacceptable. so sorry for your dd - must have been a rough day for her!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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are you sure that's the story? I assume you got your side of the story from your DD. I would approach the teacher by saying your dd was very upset and you want to get a better understanding of the circumstances surrounding the accident. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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Oh yes, I'm sure the teacher will clarify that the child is confused, nobody would ever tell her she couldn't go, blah, blah. Make it clear to your child that when she knows she must go she should go with or without permission. My child had this exact problem around the same age. She was so rule abiding that she could not bring herself to act in opposition to a rule even she knew was wrong. Give child permission to disobey in this instance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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that's awful. i'm a nyc city teacher - and i bet if i didn't let a kid go to the bathroom - i would never hear the end of it. i probably would be called in the talk to the principal and possibly even being disciplined. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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