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07.23.08, 09:02 AM General Topics
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friends' of ours just going through a hard time w/ their 3yo dc. he was in hosp. for 2 wks last month w/2 bacterial infections. i'm not even clear what exactly was wrong w/him (cause, etc)...BUT he was released from hosp. w/ a permanent IV line as he needs daily IV meds for 4+ weeks. During this time they took him to every public place you can imagine, including a ballpark TWO days after getting out of the hosp. Well he just developed a blood infection. Back in hosp. I'm having a hard time dealing w/this. Anger, judgement, etc. I know its wrong to judge them but I can't help it. So upset dc is sick again. Their values are so off, I don't feel like being friends w/them. Am I being a b*tch? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.23.08, 09:02 AM Flag
 

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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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I've been in their position, so I can tell you that you 1) need to keep your feelings entirely to yourself, do not discuss them with anyone else and 2) try to be there for them if you can, without judgement, even if its only sending a note hopig their dc gets well soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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op- sorry you went through this too. i'm doing all the above, minus discussing this w/my dh. i'm not proud of the fact i'm judging them, believe me. i just feel like i can't help it in this situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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i can't imagine how painful it must have been for them to have their son in the hospital for that long, and not even know what is wrong with him. once he was out they probably wanted to celebrate a little and reward him for going through such a horrible ordeal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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op- i wish i could say they were going out to celebrate. the ball park was for dad, he's in a softball league. they weren't going to fun places for kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Just curious about the discharge directions. You assume he should have been home in bed but I wonder if that is necessarily true? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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op- all i know, is that he had (and still does have) a pick (sp?) line in his arm, his vein. and that they had to give him iv meds through it every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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np- That is a direct line into his vein. No wonder he got a blood infection. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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np: i agree. i'm guessing he did not have to be home in bed. otherwise they would've kept him in the hospital. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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i don't think he had to be home in bed, but not carted around to every public place their is. he was fed through IV for almost 2 wks (couldn't eat), he lost a bit of weight (for a 3yo) and was very weak. he looked visibly sick (and tired). when i saw him out i felt so sorry for him. imagine feeling horrible and being carted around to places you didn't want to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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i think you are getting carried away with your assumptions. how do you know he didn't want to go. maybe it was a treat for him. or maybe not. either way, i think you don't think much of these people and are attributing things to them which have no basis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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op- you definitely have a point. might be a dealbreaker for me, as far as the friendship goes. i know i'm being judgemental and its not a good thing, but i refuse to think that its okay for parents to be so irresponsible w/their childs health. major surgery to remove tumor in lungs, out of the hospital in 4 days then 2 days later at a public arena w/germs all over the place...totally negligent. thats just me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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