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07.23.08, 05:11 AM New York City
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if you got pregnant by someone you dated for 6 months and found out you were right after he dumped you, would you tell him you were pregnant even if you were going to terminate? or would you just terminate and never tell him? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.23.08, 05:11 AM Flag
 

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The only reason you want to tell him if you plan to terminate is because you feel the loss of the relationship and think this will change things. It won't. It will make them worse. Terminate and move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:12 AM Flag
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no, i don't want it to change things. i just didn't know morally if i had any obligation etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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shouldn't he pay for half of it though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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i would think so, but poster above told me to not say, terminiate and move on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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I am the above poster, if this is about money and you need it then tell him, but with regard to morality if you are going to terminate anyway what is telling him going to accomplish? Sounds to me as secretly you want a reaction out of him. When dumped we all want a reaction from the person who left to let us know we were important, I would let it go but thats me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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I know a woman who got pregnant from a 2 day fling... she terminated without telling the man. It's now been 4 years. I still think she should have told him, it was his baby too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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Why drag up drama and emotions with a man who does not want to be with you. This is my advice, take it or leave it. you have no real moral obligation to tell him unless you think that he is the kind of man who would want to know or care to know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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a potential baby belongs to no one but the potential mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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I got pregnant from a guy I dated for 2 months. I scheduled the abortion and told him about it a few days before the procedure. We got married and remain married 9 years (and 2 kids later). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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Proud for you for having courage to 1. schedule the abortion if necessary and 2. tell the man who is now the Daddy during such an important intersection in your life. Congratulations [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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Are you saying you had the abortion or you did not in the end? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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Tell him. He has a right to know. I'm not saying ask him, but tell him. He should know he can father children and he should know that he fathered a child with you. What you decide to do once you tell him is up to you. But telling him before will be much easier than afterwards I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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I agree. If you then can't and never tell him you (and your girlfriends) hold this in your heart like a broken record forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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ita. i also think guys have a say in what women should do, but i drfinitely agree he should be told. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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Your having an abortion, you don't seem to be concerned with morality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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holy crap you are horrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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you're not too concerned with grammar, are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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this is not jsut hurtful, but pintless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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hi elisabeth! nice to see you've stopped crying about the n word. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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If you're planning on terminating anyway and don't foresee a reunion with the bf, don't tell him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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a dh: If you are not asking for my input, if there is nothing I can say to change what you are going to do -- I would not want to know. I realize I don't speak for all men but that is my pov. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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