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07.22.08, 22:35 PM Expecting
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anyone ambivalent about dc#2. In 7th month and feel guilty about how ambivalent I feel. And really wanted this baby...not an Opps baby. Cant shake this feeling or "whatever" [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Expecting 07.22.08, 10:35 PM Flag
 

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when I was pg with my 2nd, i had the worst anxiety dreams. well, actually had bad dreams until dc turned 1. I have a terrible relationship with my own sib-my mom was not the greatest parent (big understatement), so I was worried I would repeat history. felt guilty that I would neglect dc 2 while trying to help dc 1 transition to being a big sib. dc 2 is 2.5 now, and it is good. kids get along-are very sweet tog, and it has been great for most part. glad I had my 2nd dc. family feels complete now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:33 AM Flag
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When we were waiting to adopt #2 (we adopted both of our kids) I was a little worried. I had such a strong, immediate bond to DS (our oldest) when I first held him--it was like a jolt almost. We are very, very close. I had trouble imagining loving another kids as much. But DD is 2.5 now and such a joy and seeing the two of them together is awesome. It did take me a little bit longer to bond w/ her and it felt different, but I'm so glad we have two kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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everyday we say how glad we are we had #2. They enjoy each other so much and have 2 keeps us from putting too much pressure on 1. It will all be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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I have been trying to decide whether to have a second and feel totally ambivalent. Let's face it, this time, you know what you are in for. However, I have talked to a lot of people about this and no-one EVER says they regretted having a second. You will be OK--just think, soon there will be another little being who is an special to you as your 1st. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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I remember, when I was pg with #2, that I sort of went through a 'mourning' period towards the end - as goofy as it sounds, I was mourning the end of our little 3-person family. I couldn't imagine life with a 2nd child, or loving a 2nd child as much as I loved the first. And to be honest, it took me a little longer to bond with #2 after he was born. But then magically, it happens - you're a happy family of 4, and you can't imagine life without a 2nd child. I think it's perfectly normal. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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