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07.22.08, 15:03 PM New York City
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I am divorced and in nasty conflict with ex, can I forget about applying to private kindergarten (I may be able to hide some of it, but ex will certainly not participate in application process)? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.22.08, 03:03 PM Flag
 

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does ex not want to pay for private? if not, he will likely thwart you. never looks good to have battling parents, and schools will worry about the dc acting out, or whatever. not fair, but they will discriminate. if you had just waited until after getting a spot... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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I don't see why it would automatically eliminate you. Why can't you hide conflcit? Go to interviews alone; say he's out of town on business or something and be apologetic about it, and do application yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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he would pay, we just can't be in a room together and in my opinion, he comes across as crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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hijack: what happens if dh is temporarily estranged from dc - say in rehab or something similar. does the school still expect him to participate in app process? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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if you explain and say dh is in rehab, you can say good bye to that school. if dh just doesn't show up to parent interview, it doesn't look good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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I know of a boy whose father is in prison (long story) who was applying to private schools...shut out...schools don't want to deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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I don't blame the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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that is so wrong. i can't even believe you people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Puleease. Schools don't accept kids bec they can't hold their pencil right or pick their nose or mom doesn't know the right people in the board or whatever. These are much more trivial than a father in prison. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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I know of a child in foster care accepted to a NYC private school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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So why don't you just present yourself as a single mom? Just leave him out of the picture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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some schools ask about family dynamics such as recent separation, divorce.. to explain any "temporary" misbehavior exhibited by dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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So just say you're divorced; lots of parents are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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i think they care if it was a recent divorce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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You really have to try to get him to cooperate with you. Do you think he can manage for a 1/2 hour interview & hour tour? My df went through this and it was really hard. She did get once accept, but couldn't do it because of dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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I think it's possible as long as you and your ex are on the same page in terms of what you want. I think schools are most concerned about whether they'll get caught in a situation where someone refuses to pay the bills. You can go ahead and try since I do know of people who are divorced who have dc's in private schools. And I even know situations where both parents were not there for the interview. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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Can you get a letter from ex (through his lawyer) stating that he will pay for private school? If so, then I think you can go through the process by yourself and just explain that his involvement is simply financial, but the household is you and your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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