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07.22.08, 08:22 AM General Topics
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would you be upset if you found out dh looked at playby.com. we have been living apart for apx a year by choice - temporary job situation. he'll be back soon. found out he looks at this. when we're together we have a great physical relationship. i thought he'd never look at sites like that. should i not say anything now and if it continues when we're living together then say something. thanks [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.22.08, 08:22 AM Flag
 

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this is really no big deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I'd be a bit miffed inside but I know that it is totally normal for men to look at porn/playboy, especially when they can't be near their wives. I wouldn't say anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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i it continues when we're living together again, would you say anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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not unless it becomes a problem. I know my dh occaasionally looks at porn. I just look the other way. its not an issue and doesn't affect our sex life or relationship [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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no, all men look at porn and they've been doing it since they were 12, this has nothing to do with your sex life with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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makes me fell like im not good enought [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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no, it is because no matter how much you want to have sex with dh it probably isn't enough for him. For men there is much more of a biological need to get off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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No, all people need sex. It is also normal for men and women to look at porn together as a form of foreplay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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you are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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hello? all guys look at porn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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why. i don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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that's what I said [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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why do they need to do this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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It is also normal for women to look at porn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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imagine how you would feel if he was looking at gay sites [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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i feel like its a form of cheating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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i agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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it is cheating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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it isn't and maybe it is what keeps him from straying in real life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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It doesn't matter at all - whether or not you reside in the same residence [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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are you saying its ok for him to look at these sites regardless? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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Yes, that is what I am saying. It is natural and there is nothing wrong with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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so you would not feel jealous at all. why are we wives not enought [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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we are enough. women seem to associate porn with their own sex lives. this is a completely different thing all together and has nothing to do with actual sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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wow you're really secure or are you a man [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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i'm not a man, but i can't fathom why women get upset when their dh's look at slutty naked women that don't really exist in their lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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because i will never look like that and im jealous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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i get that, but porn stars are not the type nice dh's marry and have children with and love. you can't have it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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ok. but even though id never do it, its got me thinking of getting brest enlargement surgery [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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oh dear! i really doubt your dh needs you to have big boobs, he's just looking at the others for fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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so its wrong to ask him to stop? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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yes and he won't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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Hear hear!! Nice that somebody on here talks sense! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Why not appreciate that he loves the female body? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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agreed and he often tells me he wants picutures of me. but (even though I would never do it) it has me thinking of getting a brest enlargement - even though i never would [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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I think this is your issue. You feel insecure but you really should not. I think in this day and age, porn is much more mainstream and very easy to access. It is not like before where he would have to search it out in some nasty store. You and DH are not living together full time and it makes sense. It is a much better solution than cheating. I think you should relax. I know it is hard to do but it really isn't about you. DOnt worry!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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i agree that it is not big deal, unless is becomes a complusion, involves underage kids etc. most, if not all, men watch porn at some point or another. my cable bill was through the roof when i was pg bc all i did was sleep the first 3 months and dh watched porn while i was sleeping. I also agree that it usually has nothing to do with a couples sex life, but do believe that some men and women expect their sex life to be like porn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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does he know that you knew he did this while you were pg. it didn't bother you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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so, not a big deal, find something else to worry about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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I don't see how *anyone* could "expect their sex life to be like porn." If my sex life were like porn, I would be having sex with lots of men who are extremely well endowed,in addition to having several lesbian relationships with women who have huge breasts. The men would be pizza delivery guys, who drop off the pizza and immediately decide to have sex with me, they would also be police officers who arrest me, take me to a cell and have wild sex with me in the cell, and neighbors who come over to borrow something, but who are ready to drop their pants in an instant. And of course I would be wildly moaning in ecstacy through it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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lol... and looking very serious, and never climaxing in a normal way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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better that than engaging with a real person, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Yes, pornography is a good way to generate fantasies and enjoy your sexuality (whether you are male or female) and live out things that you would never REALLY want to do. Hubby doesn't want a balloon chested woman any more than you want the same sort of artificiality in a guy. Porn is a normal part of many people's sex lives. Ask him if you can look at the site with him and see what each of you finds sexy. Playboy.com is probably pretty tame! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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All sentient men like porn. Just accept that as a law of nature. Any man who says otherwise is lying. And Playboy -- that's like porn for high school boys. It doesn't get any tamer. Be thankful your DH doesn't have a taste for the really nasty porn that's out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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ugh! Everyone should stop telling her that there is only one answer to this. It all depends on what the people in the relationship are comfortable with. Each couple needs to decide what is okay with them. One answer is not meant for all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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