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07.22.08, 07:20 AM General Topics
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ARRGHH!!! Why are other people's mothers so helpful with their dbs and mine is so useless? She was a SAHM, raised me with zero help from my dad, and yet seems to have no idea what to do with a baby. All she wants to do is take pictures of him. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.22.08, 07:20 AM Flag

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:22 AM Flag

np: I'm a pretty decent mom- (I think), but loathe playing with toddlers, preschoolers, etc. Love to read to them. Always feel so inadequate that I don't like to play. Feel like all the moms I know love doing this.. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:25 AM Flag

My MIL has grandkids ranging from 4-22. i have known her for 14 yrs. Never seen her really engage with any of the grandkids. I just think she is DONE after raising her own. She is not nasty, just disengaged, but like OP's mom loves to take pics of her grandkids. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:26 AM Flag

my grandmother was like this - completely disengaged from her grandchildren, but when we were older she did nice things with us (took us to shows, etc). Of course, she wasn't a very engaged mother either, from what my mom says... foisted the kids on the nanny [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:28 AM Flag

my mom lives across the country but my MIL is like that [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:24 AM Flag

op: Anyone have advice on how to ask a mom for more help, or get her more engaged with the kids in a gentle way? It is just sad for me because I feel like others so much help from their parents and the kids know their grandparents so well. And she was so into me having a kid (at 36)! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:33 AM Flag

some parents/grandparents aren't the "get involved" type with babies, but they can still be very close with grandchildren as they get older. My grandmother was like this (not the baking cookies type, I call her) but I love her very much and have many wonderful memories of being with her as a child [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:35 AM Flag

I think you just have to respect who your mom is and not expect her to be your babysitter. Not sure how old child is, but reading to child is pretty easy task and good bonding experience [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:35 AM Flag

how old is db? my parents are *much* better now that my dd is 3yo and can talk, play with them, etc. maybe she's just not a baby person. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:40 AM Flag

my advice is for you to forget it. you won't change her. She is who she is. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:03 AM Flag