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07.21.08, 14:42 PM General Topics
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at what point do you start making your kid apologize for doing something wrong? over the weekend a friend's 2yo made my 2yo dd cry, and my friend spent about 15 minutes demanding that her daughter apologize to mine. i felt so uncomfortable, b/c i believe that, at this age, the whole concept of "sorry" just doesn't exist. would you have said something if you were me? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 02:42 PM Flag

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we started right away. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:47 PM Flag

but don't you think that starting right away just gets them in the habit of saying something without meaning it? (not trying to start an argument... just curious) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:48 PM Flag

No I think we attribute fun things to our dcs and pretending or saying they understand it. She loves dress up, she wants to be a princess, let her wear her special hat to the table for food and I think those things are easy to let them do but we don't want to think they understand the things that make parenting harder, like saying sorry. If DC understands the pleasure of having a toy all to herself than she can understand why she has to apologize for depriving another childs turn on that toy. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:50 PM Flag

i dont' agree with having a 2yo apologize but it wouldn't bother me that it's training them to say something without meaning it. b/c it's a social issue anyway. and many social issues are arbitrary. apologizing for certain behavior is a social necessity, whether or not you mean it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:57 PM Flag

i agree that 2yo is young. i do have my 2yo "make nice" or pat the other kid if i feel it's warranted. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:48 PM Flag

I do think a 2 yo understands some part of it- at dd's daycare they made the kids stand face to face and acknowledge that you don't hit/take toys/whatever when you're with your friends. Making them say the words "I'm sorry" is tough at such a young age though. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:07 PM Flag

I agree with your friend. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:08 PM Flag

you really would have hounded your kid for 15 minutes without them getting it? she was literally following her crying daughter around for 15 min getting increasingly frustrated that she wasn't saying sorry. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:14 PM Flag

I have my 2.3 ds say he not going to do the offending behavior anymore. It makes more sense than sorry. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:41 PM Flag