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07.21.08, 10:29 AM New York City
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Starting public K in fall. In our preschool bday parties were invite the whole class. Public school moms - how did people arrange bday parties when your kids were in Kindergarten? Invite the class? Invite the boys/girls? do something small with three friends? Curious b/c my kid has a Fall bday. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.21.08, 10:29 AM Flag
 

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In our K class of 25 6 or 7 kids had parties with the whole class invited, another 8 had one gender only, the rest only small parties, family parties or no parties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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I answered a very similar post before. We picked a place easy to accomodate alot of kids and invited the whole class (as well as dc's friends from earlier years). Since it's public school, many kids won't come, but it's actually nice to get to know the parents a bit since at that age they often stay. We also only distributed invitations 7-10 days before the party so not everyone was free. If you can, I'd do both boys and girls at that age, although one gender is fine. Also, many kids also only invited a few kids from the class, which was ok, but if you can swing it, it's really nice to have everyone in the early months of school since most special friendships haven't been developed yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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how many kids attended your child's bday. I agree with you, but also do not like parties with too many people, just to much chaos and noise for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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DC was in a class of around 19 or 20 and I think maybe half came. There were probably 15 - 19 kids altogether (this was a few years back). But dc didn't mind alot of kids, and neither did I. If you really hate that, it's fine to invite only a few kids if they are special friends, or even none. You can't give invites in school, though, and make sure the number is less than half of each gender (i.e., don't only leave out 3 or 4 boys or girls out of 10). That's my personal rule, not some Emily Post thing, but I think it keeps feelings from getting hurt. But I really liked visiting with the other parents so was glad to meet them at the party and have lots of kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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In our class only one child invited the entire class. Some invited same sex only - and some only invited their friends from the class and were appropriately discreet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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That's what we are going to do. DD will decide who she wants to invite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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I have never invited the entire class nor would I invite all of the same sex. I invite who DC wants to invite--it is, after all DC's party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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Just curious -- if dc wants to invite all but one or 2 kids in class of same gender, do you let him/her? If you read the OP, this is about a kid starting K in a new school where her birthday is coming up a few weeks into the year. Most kids don't have good friends yet in the class. It's very different when kids are older and have set friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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^^^what I have seen is that kids friends change every week at that age, especially in a class where everyone is new. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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so very true! And yes, let your child invite who she wants and be discreet. It didn't kill our generation, it won't kill this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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I agree, but just wondering if you made sure there weren't only 1 or 2 boys or girls left out. Or didn't really care at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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NP. I wouldn't care. It is her party. If she wants to exclude those two bullies that's fine by me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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I guess I'm different, because I would care. At age 5, you can guide them to be kind. I wouldn't assume the 2 people not invited were bullies, and if they were, including them is a great way to turn bullies into nicer people. Doubt many 5 year old kids are true bullies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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NP. I agree. Why do you assume it's the bullies being excluded. Maybe it's the shy kids? Don't you owe it to your DC to teah him/her to be polite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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nnp: she sounds like a bully herself, and is teaching her dc to follow in her footsteps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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You guys are hilarious. All these things you think you get from a person by reading a line or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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Prek or other schools have a policy for these things - you don't want to invite all girls except one or two or create a situation where some feel really left out/singled out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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