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07.21.08, 10:14 AM General Topics
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My SIL is getting married this w/e. There's alot of bad history with my in-laws so I'm not sure if my judgement is clouded. My 3 year old son still naps or otherwise melts down by 5:30. He is a ringbearer for 3:00 ceremony, 7:00 reception. I would like him to nap before the ceremony but he will probably be dragged around for photos all day. Is it appropriate to insist that he nap? I don't want to deal with the meltdowns at the wedding. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 10:14 AM Flag
 

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Try and put him down at 1 for a nap but don't worry if he doesn't tak eone. Keep him at the wedding as long as he can be polite - my boys usually do very well despite a missed nap in a new and exciting environment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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can't do nap at 1. Photos. Unless I say he needs to miss it. That's sort of my point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Tell them he will come for photos at the end of the session, because he needs to nap from 12:30-2:30. He doens't need to be in all the photos at all - my rb was in about 3, taken around his nap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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have him rest after the ceremony. He won't be in every shot, have them do his pictures first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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i agree. ask SIL if its better for her to do his photos at the beginning or end and work nap around that. that way you show you are trying to be accommodating while still getting him to nap. also, try to remind her that it is better for her if he doesn't have a meltdown at her wedding. (btw, does he need to come to the reception at all?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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let's just say, she is having children at her wedding, and for him to not be there seem inappropriate since he is a ringbearer. her plan is to get a babysitter for all the little rugrats and stick them in the bridal suite. we are getting a sitter for our 1 year old at the MIL house. and then when our 3 year old gets tired, we plan to bring him back to the sitter too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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that makes sense. He can be there but he doesn't need to be there for long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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OR: You will be surprised, at 3 he can handle skipping a nap for a fun event. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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yes but then OP needs to forget about the reception, get a babysitter for him and put him down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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I'm amazed that the bride isn't hiring babysitters to watch kids. That is what I did at my wedding and all weddings i've been to - it is so considerate, as you dont have to worry about your kids but they can be at the wedding with you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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oh she is, but there are a lot of kids and she is probably just getting 1 sitter. there will be no sleeping. did kids sleep at your wedding? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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yes, but we had 2 sitters and 2 rooms - one for older kids and one for little ones to sleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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where did you have the children sleep? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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in a guest room we reserved for the evening. local friends brough pack&plays and the 3yos slept on beds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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he could till about 6 or 7. but not for a 7 PM reception start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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if he cant nap before ceremony maybe he can nap between the ceremony and reception. i find that dd falls asleep in the car when we drive to reception [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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that's what i want to do. but they already hate me and think i'm too schedule oriented with the kids. i know i shouldn't really care what they think. it's just hard to determine if i should put my foot down for this, for a family wedding. i want to but again, not sure if i'm being too hard about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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(woops this was meant reply for the 12:30-2:30 nap suggestion) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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tell them if they don't want a meltdown in the middle of their wedding ceremony, they'll let him nap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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remember before you had children, that you didn't know why parents wanted their kids on a nap schedule? it doesn't matter what i say, they just won't get the meltdown thing. because they won't be the ones dealing with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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I would have gotten it before I had children, but that's just me. Actually, I didn't let either of our sisters have their young children at our ceremony because I was afraid of meltdowns [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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me too but they had people travelling in from out of town who have children. so she felt it would be appropriate to invite them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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that's why she has a babysitter... though you might suggest that she get an extra one if there are a LOT of kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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DS would not go down for an early nap when he was RB for my cousin's wedding - he was 3 1/2. I have to say, he did really well and actually managed to stay up until nearly 10pm. Just make sure that there is food for him - that was the one thing that nearly caused a meltdown - we hadn't brough snacks and photos and ceremony took up the bulk of the afternoon and reception was at dinner time and the cocktail food had NOTHING kid-friendly (even for my non-picky eater). We ordered a pizza to the reception because if the kids (there were only 3) had had to wait until dinner, it would have been a disaster. In hindisght I would have brough snacks. But I also would have sent DS back with a sitter at 8pm - if not for him then for ME. Keeping up after a preschooler in 4" heels and a dress was exhausting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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