UrbanBaby

07.21.08, 09:40 AM Expecting
18 replies

Remind me to never nag dh again.Or at least lay off of him for a couple of months. We spent the weekend w/ 2 other couples at their beach house. Neither of my friend's dhs did jack sh*t with the kids the whole time. I mean they played w/ them, but no diapers, no feeding, no calming of tantrums, no putting to bed. Nothing. My dh has his flaws for sure, but he is 2000% involved with parenting, and does his share and more. I am shocked at how little these guys did, and how my friends think it's normal! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Expecting 07.21.08, 09:40 AM Flag

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my dh is the same. we both lucked out, TRUST ME [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:40 AM Flag

ditto here. But he is still lacking in other department, though. It's hard not to nag him. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:04 AM Flag

I feel so fortunate. My dh is a totally involved dad--everything from diapers, to making dinners and playing with kids. I don't think I could tolerate anything less. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:42 AM Flag

that's what astounded me, my girlfriends did nothing and said nothing. my friend's dh handed her the baby and said, "uh oh, he's got a poop!" grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:51 AM Flag

I would kill him. I think it's all about expectations. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:52 AM Flag

ITA - My mother is shocked at my dh b/c she is used to my sister's dh. Sister's dh wasn't involved in the baby stages of his kids AT ALL and didn't seem to care. My mom couldn't believe I didn't want to register for things like strollers, car seats etc. w/o dh b/c he has opinions on them. I'm SO thankful my dh feeds that baby, changes diapers etc. My sister's dh didn't get involved at all until his kids were toddlers and even now the "gross" stuff (sickness, accidents, dr. appts) are solely my sister's duties. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:44 AM Flag

My BIL is the same way. He is so committed to his career I wonder if he knows he has a wife and dc's at home. My dh is an amazing dad and I swear my dd loves her dad more then me. :( oh well. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:49 AM Flag

my mil always says " I don't know how you get him to change diapers!" um, I don't "get" him to, he just does. We both work 50+ hours a week, lady--- it's called co-parenting! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:52 AM Flag

Exactly. I don't have to nag my dh to take care of the kids. He just sees it as his responsibility, just like helping with dishes, folding laundry, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:54 AM Flag

me, too. thank goodness. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:59 AM Flag

eh, my dh is a total lout when it comes to housework, but he does change tons of diapers and takes db on a long early am walk on the weekends so I can sleep in. It evens out in the end! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:01 AM Flag

my dh is good with the dcs but can't handle changing bms he gags like nothing else. I do it because it's annoying to watch. my sons prefer me to do everything but tolerate daddy it sometimes hurts dh's feelings when they say no I want mommy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:58 AM Flag

Sadly, my dh is like your friend's dh. it's a battle... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:58 AM Flag

how old are dbs? why won't he step up to the plate/ [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:01 AM Flag

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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:05 AM Flag

ita. you need a momcation. one night in a hotel. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:08 AM Flag

let him prepare the bottles, too! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 10:23 AM Flag

my dh is the same... he's very involved, which is great for me, him and the kids. [ Reply | More