< Return to Talk
07.21.08, 05:41 AM General Topics
21 replies
My husband wants to quit his job and then look for another. He is miserable at his current job. I dont know if I should be ok with that or to freak. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:41 AM Flag
 

Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

»
He should find a new job first. Is he nuts? Esp in this economy he should be thankful he has a job! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:42 AM Flag
»
Depends if you can afford the risk of him not finding work for a while. Depending what he does there are lots of areas where jobs are being cut. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:43 AM Flag
»
we have savings so we could survive for maybe 6-12 mths. But I am so nervous . Its so risky. But I have never seen him depressed. He is so distressed. I feel horrible. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:44 AM Flag
»
I have seen my dh get really depressed in a job that he hated and I was so glad when he left. I would encourage him to look for work before he quits though but in all honesty if he is so low it is worrying you maybe he does just need to leave. GL [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:59 AM Flag
»
Are you working? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:48 AM Flag
»
You have 2 problems: 1) he is far less hireable when he is not working 2) he is not mentally prepared to interview (lack of confidence, self-esteem). [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:51 AM Flag
»
Why would you not be okay with that? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 05:54 AM Flag
»
im not working. And I just worry about him not being able to find work. Its such a bad situation. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:00 AM Flag
»
I can understand why that would be worrisome for you, but I get the impression that you're concerned about how the change might affect YOU, rather than how miserable your DH currently is. I hope you're more supportive of him IRL. After all, he alone is supporting the whole family. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:03 AM Flag
»
Well I do worry about how the change will affect our family. Mostly because if he doesnt find work at some point we will have to sell our house and wont be able to afford to live. I also worry because sometimes not finding a job can be just as depressing as being in one you hate. I could go back to work but he doesnt want to stay home with the kids. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:06 AM Flag
»
np. The chances are he will be able to find a new job before things get too financially tight for you. If he really is depressed then he might need to get out of there. Is he able to take a vacation to have some time away from work to really think things through and make a plan? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:13 AM Flag
»
In this market. Get a new job, then quit. -a dad who hates his job. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:37 AM Flag
»
np: The problem with that is that often times you just don't have enough energy to effectively jobhunt while your current job sucks all the energy out of you. It took me 5 years to leave a job I hated, and have friends still stuck there 9 years after that. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:40 AM Flag
»
granted. And when I was single I would have done that in a heart beat. But when you have kid(s) counting on you... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 07:16 AM Flag
»
I agree, but if I were in OP's shoes I'd look for a job myself (assuming she does not have newborn/small baby) to take some load off DH. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 07:21 AM Flag
»
^^"market:" [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:41 AM Flag
»
Its not a great situation. But thats one of his points. He cant effectively look for work when he is bogged down at his current office all day. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:42 AM Flag
»
That is kind of true unfortunately. But then again, unless you have a decent cushion quitting in this market has big risks. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 06:46 AM Flag
»
Everyone I know who is in the position to hire says keep your job while looking. Being out of work is a big strike against you. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 07:32 AM Flag
»
I don't necessarily believe this. DH looked for a new job forever while in a good on paper job. He got fired and made finding a job his job. 5 weeks later - new job, more money. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 08:21 AM Flag
»
How do keep working at something that is making you physically ill? How can you even interview for something if you are working 8-630. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:57 PM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
Select Category
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions