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07.20.08, 13:01 PM General Topics
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How would you handle this? DH and I are really, really TTC. Right now, I'm in the 1ww for this cycle. Anyway, my dear friend and I had planned to take a trip this summer, and she is trying to pin me down on a date, and says the wknd of 8/2-3 works best for her, and it sounds like it may be the only wknd she can do. The problem with that weekend is that, if I don't get pregnant (my period is due next weekend), that weekend falls right in my fertile window before ovulation (I usually have high fertility days 7-9/10 or so, and ovulate on either the 10th to the 11th or the 11th to the 12th (I use the CBEFM so you are shown 2 O days). That weekend falls on days 8-9. Do I tell her I can't give her a date yet? Should I be honest with her? Is that tacky to say? I mean, I just don't know what to say. AND, I have been really looking forward to our trip! So, it's not that I don't want to go. Thoughts, ladies?! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.20.08, 01:01 PM Flag

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^^ I hate how new UB cuts you off. The rest of what I said was: Is that tacky? And the thing is, I really was looking forward to our trip together. Not sure what to do. Thoughts, ladies? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:02 PM Flag

please do not be honest with her. i'd say go anway (you can have sex right before and right after) but if you decide not to go, please don't tell her why. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:03 PM Flag

np: why so firm on this? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:05 PM Flag

OP: See that's my instinct, too. I just don't want her to think I am flaking. Sorry, I forgot to add: SHE'S MOVING TO PARIS, so this will be a last visit for a while. :( All the more stressful! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:08 PM Flag

^^OP: Also, if I'm not inclined to flake, should I tell her why the following weekend would work better for me, even though the wknd of 8/2-3 works better for her? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:12 PM Flag

are her reasons as valid as yours? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:14 PM Flag

Her reason is that she is at the end of a language study course she is taking before she moves to Paris, and she'll want to be studying that weekend. So, yes, but in a totally different way. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:22 PM Flag

Relax and try no to let ttc rule your life. Go and see your friend and have fun. Being relaxed will probably improve your chance of conceiving. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:16 PM Flag

I know. It's just hard b/c I'm not so young, so I hate to miss a month. I guess if we have sex on Friday before I go, and then on Sunday when I get back, we'll just be missing Saturday...right? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:19 PM Flag

Yes, do that then enjoy the weekend with your friend. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:21 PM Flag

I can't believe this is even a question. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:45 PM Flag

OP: Well, maybe you haven't had to try hard to TTC. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:22 PM Flag

Its just a weekend - have sex before and after and GO. Esp if she is moving. sperm last for days. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:57 PM Flag