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07.19.08, 17:40 PM General Topics
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I am ovulating today and am going to seduce dh and try and get pregnant. I dont think he is 100% ready for another db b/c the first is 8 months old but i am ready and age isnt on my side. If i got prgnant i know he'd be happy i just dont want to discuss it and deal with a debate over a few months b/c who the hell knows how long its going to take anyway. Is it bad with him if we have sex tonight and i dont tell him i am ovulating? (obviously i am not onthe pill) [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.19.08, 05:40 PM Flag
 

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haven't we all done that??? ;) Go for it. Men can't handle all the talking and discussions. I did last week. Don't feel bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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not everyone does it this way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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i think it is good to have a partner in this. I wouldn't do it on the sly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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Well if your DH has a sense of humor, and knows you are not using protection (and he is not either) why don't you just ask if he wants to play a little "roulette?" Seriously, he has to know in the back of his mind that there is always a chance you will get pg, and to that end you know that the stats are not on your side that the timing will be perfect for pg anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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I've seen that blow up in someone's face before. It's a lot of stress to find out there is a baby on the way, but you know him better than anyway, if you think once he finds out he will be happy then go ahead. I would be afraid to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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np-not like it is just the pg to get ready, birth, sleepless nights, raising a dc. it isn't like surprising him with a bday gift or reservations at a restaurant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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My friend's husband was really pissed, but they had clearly discussed not having anymore kids, and she had a hard time conceiving anyway. On her own she went on Clomid or something that would aid in fertility and ended up pregnant. She couldn't see why he was mad, they were having sex, but knew on her own the chances were slim to none of conception. She couldn't understand how he would be upset, I think that kind of sneaky stuff is somewhat of a betrayal. Anyway, she ended up miscarrying in the end, she was devestated of course. They had three girls already but really wanted a boy. Now they are divorced! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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i don't see a need to discuss the likelihood that you are ovulating - if you have sex without birth control together, then he is an adult and aware of the possibilities... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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well he asked me if it was a "safe" time and i said yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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i posted up above that it was okay to have do it without discussing, but not lying. This could end a marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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Well that is shitty, but go ahead and just do what YOU want, you are going to anyway. People kill me with this stuff. Is it okay if he goes and gets a vacestomy with out telling you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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manipulative, dishonest, and just wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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or: well, that's kind of lying. which is different, imho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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friend did that and she is now divorced. Is that what you want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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don't do this. it's manipulative [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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We decided that it was "off limits" for two months. I asked my dh to think about it, and be prepared to start trying after I had given him time to warm up to the idea. This worked for us, even though he wasn't sure....in a word respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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