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07.18.08, 08:23 AM New York City
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I have been posting here, bf of 6 mo is away for work this week and things have been crazy with all the bank collapses, etc. anyway, usually we talk every night before bed and this week he has texted me everyday that he is so crazy and will try to call later and doesn't. finally today i asked him why he doesn't even send me a goodnight text and he launches into a whole thing about how the next two months his schedule is brutal, i asked what that meant. he said, i just want to manage your expectations. I won't be around really. i have a ton of work trips, etc and i don't know if i will be able to have dinner with you on thursday etc". I asked what he was saying, if he wanted to stop dating since he didn't have the time and he said "thats not what i am saying, i am just trying to explain it to you, and sometimes when there is a lot going on, something has got to slip and i don't have time to call you, etc". to me it sounded like a blow off. I said, when you care about someone you might say "things are crazy but we can make time at some point". he said he didn't want to talk about it now and he would call me later. we got off the phone and i sent a text saying "don't worry about calling me later, I am leaving for the weekend and we can talk if and when things calm down for you". he writes back "enjoy the beach, why don't we have breakfast on monday". ugh. breakup bfast? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.18.08, 08:23 AM Flag
 

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He's just not that into you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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Sounds like he's going to be snowed under with work, is under a great deal of pressure and feels quite overwhelmed. It's hard to say without having heard him myself, but I think he's asking you to be flexible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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I've seen a lot of your posts. You need to let go. You're going to drive yourself insane and drive him away (if he hasn't drifted away already). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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you know what, there is a MAJOR financial crisis going on, the likes of which has not been seen since the 70s -- tho some are comparing it to the depression. if you want to keep this bf i would give him all the support and space he needs right now, especially if his work is tied up in this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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"manage your expectations" is a polite way of saying take it down a notch or stop the relationship entirely. Men find it really hard to be the bad guy. Would rather force the woman to break up with them. If he's in finance, he has a very good reason to feel overwhelmed. Give him space and try to move on yourself. Maybe you'll hear from him again someday when he's less freaked out if you can end things now on a pleasant note. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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he is probably going nuts at work. back off if you want any chance of a relationship with him. find something else to do with your time and your mental space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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