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07.18.08, 05:00 AM NY Schools
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I'm sure this is a crap shot, but any chance we could still take the G&T spot we turned down? We realy thoguht this market would turn around and now we seem to be royally f*#d. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
NY Schools 07.18.08, 05:00 AM Flag
 

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You have to think long term...we wil have a tough year, but we ar enot pulling dcs from their private school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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NP - and thinking long term is why we did pull dc from private to go G&T this year. Its going to be a long bad few years for the economy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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I think as you turned it down it will have been reallocated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 05:19 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.18.08, 05:35 AM Flag
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i hate to be a debbie downer, but the answer is no. we checked with nicky rosen and she basically said if there was even a slight chance you might take the spot, you should take it and then change your mind later because the deadline was very firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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any chance you could get fa (or more fa) at this point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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No we don't qualify for FA. We'll just have to make some serious lifestyle adjustmets to afford private now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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it must be stressful, but things will turn around. is your zoned school not an option? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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it would be an option if we honestly had no other choice, but it's not a great option so I have to take the "no vacation" lifestyle over gen ed. In other words, we'll be fine just "education poor". Bhut I can't send DD to a mediocre gen ed just to salvage the perks in my own life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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the other option is to do public for a year (kindergarten is pretty much the same anywhere imo) and then try again for g&t. or do private for a year and do the same. if dd qualified once, she may qualify again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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yikes. i'm sorry. we had toyed with the idea of applying to privates but thought it would be a stretch. i since lost my job and now we're so glad we didn't do it. agree you should ask the school about the possibility of fa. a couple of years ago a friend of mine was downsized and the school was very sympathetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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OP: We won't get FA. DH still makes more than most people. We justs have to adjust our lifestyle. It would have been nice to have had the extra 30G (one day to be 60 G when the baby goes) each year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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Well go back to DOE and beg then. Who knows, maybe they'll let you back in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I am very sure if you focus on the less desirable district G&Ts you might have a chance. Give them a call. If you are thinking Anderson, NEST, LL, 116, 11, or what's the one in D#?, that would be a very firm "no, way" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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OP: I was just going to try for the one DD was offered that we turned down for private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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which one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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I won't say but it's a good one and we would be lucky to have her there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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then i'm afraid you are sol. never hurts to try, though. i would call nicky rosen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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If you can't afford the tuition anymore you can always fall back to your zoned public. It's not like your kid will end up with no school at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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And what fun for the child! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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np. we picked our zoned public over district g&t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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OP: No, I wouldn't do that. We won't starve w/ DD in private, we'll just have to make lifestyle adjustments. I'm not sending her to a crappy school (and our zoned gen ed IS crappy) just so we can go on vacation and have a housekeeper and buy groceries at Whole Foods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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it sounds like you might live in chelsea? if so, i might give ps11 a call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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or PS111. i am betting that is the program in D2 most likely to have space [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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Ask your husband to get a second job at night bartending or something. Or maybe you can let the other parents know that you are available for picking their kids up after school and you could earn extra money. Just let everyone know its going towards your vacation fund. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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The entitlement is amazing. I am glad you turned down the G&T spot. Hopefully it went to someone that in no way could afford private in their wildest dreams (like me) and who doesn't have the cleaning lady / Whole Foods lifestyle. Can anyone one tell me what a vacation is? If my dc didn't get into G&T, we would have no option than to do our crappy local. So I don't feel bad for you. Just realize how privledged you are to have the option to send your kid to private. You should be grateful for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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not op, but quit being such a bpp. and learn to spell privileged, for chrissakes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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It's Christ sakes. Not chrissakes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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colloquially it's chrissakes. if you're gonna (also colloquially fine) be a grammar nazi, don't embarrass yourself. christ's sake. not christ sakes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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Capitals please!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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you know that even your child might have the option to get a private education? If you child is a veru good fit for a private school you will get financial aid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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Only people that have a lot of time on their hands can deal with the private school dog and pony show. One of my friends went through that for her kid and what she had to go through sounded so degrading. What parents go through for G&T admissions is enough. I couldn't imagine being put under the microscope of a school to see if my child is a good fit. Between that and paying $600 for the ERB, the whole thing sounds time consuming and crazy to me. I am not an a$$ kisser and I would find it very degrading having to "court" a school to show them how much I want my kid in there. And then what happens when my kid gets in that school and she makes friends with other kids who have completely different lifestyles than us and no matter how I tried, we would never measure up in her eyes. No thanks, I will take a good public school over private any day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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you really need to take a long, hard look at yourself and own up to how bitter you are and how you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. we're all supposed to feel sorry for you, yet you hate everyone and everything. hopefully you aren't passing all that bad energy on to your dcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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look, private school is either worth the time and effort or it's not. you make the time if it's a priority. don't whine about how you simply can't deign to suck up and try to make the effort and then expect people to feel sorry for you. you just look lazy and insecure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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actually you did have a choice. send dc to the crappy school and work to make it better. it's those people who don't even have the choice of a g&t we should feel sorry for. not hypocritical you whining about not taking a vacation and then accusing op of not realizing she has options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Tried that already. I did send my dc to local crappy school for a year and worked hard with a few other parents to try to make the school better. Most of the other parents weren't interested in doing the same. And I agree with you on feeling bad for those people who don't have a choice for G&T or Private. How does me not being able to take a vacation have anything to do with options? Every month we live pay check to pay check and if one of us loses our job we would not be able to make rent. Its just hard for me to hear people whining about cleaning ladies and vacations because they have to pay for summer school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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I meant pay for private school (not summer school). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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OP here responding to the "entitlement is amazing" poster: am NOT entitled nor do I think I am. I just like my life, I'm luck to have it, and would (if possible) like to keep it. i won't keep the "perks" at the cost of my child's education though, so I'm looking into the public option as a way to keep our "perks" and still get my kids a great education. Not entitlement, just striving to be happy like everyone else. Sorry you are so bitter and especially sorry that you do not care enough about your own kids' educations to explore options. Oh, and it's not a dog and pony show. If you are willing to do the work it's doable. People do it all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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I toured a couple of privates so I did explore the option of private. If my dc didn't get into citywide G&T, I may have explored it further. So don't assume I didn't care about options regarding my child's education. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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I feel so sorry for you. Imagine having to clean your own house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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i'm sure you're the sort of person who feels sorry for women who don't spend enough time with dcs. because they work f/t and have to clean their own floors to boot.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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I work full time and spend so much time with my kid and we all pitch in and clean the house. My husband does the heavy cleaning while we are all out of the house and I do the rest. We do all that and work full time too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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not an option for us. we both work high-stress jobs and dh travels all the time. if it's a choice between my dcs and mopping the floor, i choose the former. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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DH travels alot to and both of us also work high stress jobs. Sometimes we actually have to let the house work go for a couple of weeks. We are barely home anyways becasue of work, school and in the summer camp it doesn't get that messy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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high-stress job? DH travels all the time? 24/7, 365 days a year? You are making excuses here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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for two full weeks a month with smaller trips in between, so not a lot of time for mopping the floor and hanging out with dc. i'm not making excuses, i'm explaining why a cleaning lady is a necessity if i'm not going to be judged by a$$holes like you as an unfit mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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There is always time you can squeeze a quick bathroom cleaning. In those two weeks your DH could do the hardcore cleaning and for the time he is out you can do maintenance cleaning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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yup, and i just mopped the bathroom floor on monday. but i like a cleaner house than that. so i hire someone to do it. but, hey, i have no problem with people who live in filth. to each her own. oink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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wow. how unhealthy for the family. Your kid will grow up without really knowing his dad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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No one said you are an unfit mother. You just sound a little entitled complaining about the burden of having to make lifestyle changes becasue of the 30 grand you are going to have to spend on private school. You are the a$$hole. You are the one who stupidly turned down the G&T spot and are now going to have to mop your own floors. Ha, ha. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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op: excuse me but you have not been talking to OP. I just got back and have been out since posting and a few responses at the begining. I have not complained about a single thing. I have merely asked if it might be possible to get our G&T placement back and it turns out it is. We now have a spot at a terrific G&T. Next stop Monday morning is a meeting with the director of the private school to see if they will make an arrangment for us regarding the tuition. No complaints, just inquiries and doing what I need to do to get what I want and what my family wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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wait, you got back your spot you turned down? because you changed your mind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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oh, i get it. you never really wanted the spot at the g&t at all. you just want to use it as a bargaining chip to shake down the private school for some $$$. i felt sorry for you early on, but now i see you're just the typical nyc user. the doe went out of its way to get you a spot and you may wind up telling them to eff themselves if something better comes along. nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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hunh? What are you talking about? I am the one who loses money here...the private gets to keep our tuition plus sell the spot to someone else! We didn't want the G&T at first but now we do because we can't afford private. We are meeting with the private to see if they will give us back any of our tuition since we won't be attending and they can replace the spot with another kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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you sound awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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Awful why? We thought we could afford private so we turned down G&T. Now we can't afford private so we asked if we could have G&T back and on Monday I'm going to ask about getting at least some of our private tuition back. What's awful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Good luck...i completely understand what you did re: decline g&t for private and then, upon further consideration, realized it was a better option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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she hasn't realized it's a better option at all. she's hedging her bets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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OP: Not hedging my bets. We're going public. How am I hedging my bets? I have a meeting on monday to pull my kid out of the private and negotiate for the lost tuition! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Even though I would have liked to see the spot go to a family that in now way could afford private, I think you did the right thing. Take the money you are saving and start saving for college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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congratulations! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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How'd it go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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i think she does...she has financial reasons for reconsidering her decision to decline the g&t spot....this is a tough economy....and, as a single mom, i can understand how she rather sink money into expenses that benefit the quality of life of the family as a whole than be "education poor" when a good, quality FREE education is available. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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Sounds like the perfect relationship. ARe you sure he doesn't have a second family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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