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07.17.08, 15:45 PM Toddler
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My 2 yo ds just qualified for 2 sessions a week of PT, OT, and work with a special educator. DH doesn't want ANYONE to know. Is that normal or realistic? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.17.08, 03:45 PM Flag

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I'm sorry - that's hard. Ask him who he would like to keep it from so that you know what he is worried about - family , friends, coworkers [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:06 PM Flag

maybe he just needs time [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:06 PM Flag

He thinks people will judge your ds. Tell him people would judge a lot worse if they thought ds needed services but wasn't getting them. Yours, BTDT. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:11 PM Flag

It may be normal but it isn't realistic. In my experience that is the starting point - we ended up with 10 hours of special instruction and 4 sessions of speech as well as OT at home and at the sensory gym. It would have been impossible to keep it hidden from everyone as I wasn't available for large amounts of the day. Please let him know that it isn't anything to be ashamed of - your child is still wonderful and has a great future in store - he just needs some help now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:12 PM Flag

I think your dh needs some therapy to learn how to deal with the fact that he has issues with your ds needing therapy. It is so extremely common to get pt and ot in nyc. Honestly, there was a time when my dd was the only one not in therapy in her circle of friends. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:20 PM Flag

how old is ds?? sometimes dhs just want to know if it is going to be a long time therapy thing, or short term, like if ds will grow out of issue then he doesn't want to tell, but if ds will need it for years then he will start to be able to share with family first and then friends etc., my dh was same way [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:43 PM Flag

^^duh, sorry just saw that you typed 2 yr old [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:44 PM Flag

Not normal, sounds like he's embarrased and he shouldn't be. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:57 PM Flag

you can't discount that it is hard, socially speaking, to have a special needs kid, people have weird reactions to you and it is just very challenging, so maybe he needs time to adjust [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 05:08 PM Flag

My DS #1 qualified for speech and OT, DS #2 OT, Speech and special ed. I've never met anyone who thought anything of it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.17.08, 05:09 PM Flag