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07.17.08, 07:06 AM Newborn
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My 1 yr old ds cried hysterically before EVERY nap and EVERY bedtime. We've done CIO for 2 MONTHS now. And I'm not doing it incorrectly - we've gotten to the point where we literally don't go back in after we walk out the door. (Started off with Ferber intervals, etc. and it prolonged the crying.) What gives??? Will he ever stop?? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 07.17.08, 07:06 AM Flag
 

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^^ cries, not cried. He's still doing it. As I type, actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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You know what, he will too old to need you much sooner than you think. I had a similar experience finally gave in and when the other extreme--cosleeping. It was great to sleep with my baby and I'm glad not to have missed those years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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Are you sure you have dc on an appropriate schedule? Maybe dc is overtired when you are trying to get them to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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np: yeah, but what's the solution if overtired? It's sleep right? SO what's recommendation there? Change schedule and CIO? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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Maybe just a change in schedule. At 1 should probably be on one nap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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What time of day would you suggest? Wakes up at 6:45. Is really only taking one nap right now (10am - 12) but will fall asleep in the stroller or the car at around 3:30. Otherwise no afternoon nap. I don't force the afternoon at all because morning is too much of a battle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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Have a look at the Babywhisperer website there are lots of examples of typical 1yo schedules so you can see a range of what is 'normal'. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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what time does he go to bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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between 7 and 7:30 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I would move it earlier, try starting bedtime @ 6:30. my ds needed to go to bed that early at that age - he was so much happier when we figured it out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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News flash: CIO is not a recipe that applies to all children. For many it just doesn't work and I see that you keep escalating it. You have to stop it for now and deal with this in other ways (read the No cry sleep solutions, for example). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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I agree. 2 months is a long time (and we sleep trained, I'm not against it). But it does sound like your schedule is off, whether or not you keep trying to train [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Here are a few suggestions--if you can, try to eliminate the afternoon nap, even if its just for half an hour in the stroller. I find it is always harder for my 13 month old at bed-time if he sleeps at all later than 2:30 or 3pm. Also, try moving bed-time earlier. You are probably already doing this, but do the EXACT same thing every night for bed-time routine--even the same stories. Does ds have a "lovey" to take to bed? Keep it in the crib at all times, only for sleeping and not as a toy around the house. We had a tough time with CIO too but it eventually worked, he just needed lots of "cues" to tell him it was bed-time. Also, I must disclose that we rock him to sleep every night, in his dark room, it only takes 5-10 minutes and I know it is not "correct" according to sleep training, but it cut down the crying dramatically. However, once we put him the crib that is it, no more rocking if he wakes up when we put him down. Once every couple of weeks he will still do about 10 minutes of crying at bed-time. A very dark room also seemed to help--I taped black cardboard over his window. I hope this helps! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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OP: I agree - the late afternoon catnap might be his problem. It's tough to always avoid walking around or driving at all past 3 though. Especially when he doesn't wake up from his morning nap until noon. I'm thinking I need to push the morning nap later in the day, but he gets really cranky and rubs his eyes like crazy when I push it past 10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I'm the one who posted above about starting bedtime @ 6:30. If he's anything like my ds he will sleep longer that way and be less tired in the morning, then you can push the nap later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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I know, I have had the same problem with the naps--i find that if I take him to the playground and keep him busy I can push the morning nap later and he [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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^^^sorry for incomplete thought...he forgets to get cranky and I can push the nap later. I know it is really hard when you are a busy mom but if you can try not to have him in the car or stroller at that danger time of 3 or 4pm that helps too. Sometimes I try to have a "quiet hour" at around that time--reading stories or nursing but no sleeping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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np: take him out in the AM and then push the nap later by 15 minutes every few days or even every week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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where was he sleeping before you tried to cio? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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In the crib, no problem! But we were putting him down with a bottle in the crib. My ped told me I had to stop that and therefore he lost his big sleep cue. We tried to keep consistent with a routine at nap and bedtime including a blanket, songs, etc. but nothing seems to work that well. I am pretty sure our schedule is off. It is so hard to keep up - it feels like as soon as we get one thing figured out, something else changes completely! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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