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07.16.08, 15:12 PM General Topics
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Little sister is coming tomorrow to watch the DC while we are on a vacation. She's great, but the stress will come when we get back and she starts to cry because she is now 38, single, no prospects, and wants a child. Last time I told her to have one if she wants one and figure out the rest later. I don't know what to do this time, and I am pretty sure it will come up. Suggestions ? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 03:12 PM Flag
 

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give her yours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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at times I certainly would like to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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yesterday I had one up for grabs but today he redeemed himself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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They're tricky that way. It's like Vegas and they're the house... they always win. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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lovely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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stop torturing your sister by asking her to watch your kids while you vacation with your dh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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OK. Maybe I should not have her see her nephews at all... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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there's a difference b/t seeing her nephews and babysitting while you go on romantic get aways with dh. i babysat for my sister all the time when she and her dh travelled but i wasn't traumatized by it - never broke down crying over it. maybe your sister doesn't want to be put in that position. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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she cries about it on a Tuesday, when she babysits, if she reads an article about infertility, when she saw Martha Stewart's kid on Oprah the other day. This is not a situation specific thing, it will just be another situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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there's nothing you can do, and her time is running out. Just be sympathetic. If she really wanted it, she would find a way to make it happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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Should I just reiterate that I think she should just have one ? I feel that whatever I say I'm being irresponsible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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I would leave it be, unless she brings that idea up specifically. She has to know that it's an option already. Just listen to her and sympathize. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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I have a great friend and its the same. I want her to adopt soo badly because she would be a great mom. She got a dog instead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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and is she happy with a canine child instead of a human one ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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tries to be it's hard for a single woman to adopt, adoption is really a difficult process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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I know plenty of single women who have adopted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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recently how? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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I don't understand the question, rather recently, ie within last 2-3 years (I don't really remember), and one is in the process now. But what do you mean how? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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private or state [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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both, the one going through it now is through the state, the two a couple years ago were private (one was international). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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My aunt just did at 50. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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can you introduce her to some single men? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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I met DH at that age, got married & had DD by 40. What is she doing to meet men? Does she even want that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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She should freeze her eggs. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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In life, we don't always get what we want. She should just be happy being an aunt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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if she wants her own children, being an aunt,however nice, may not be enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Like I said, we don't always get what we want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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is she dating like a madwoman? she should be. why won't she just have one on her own if she doesn't want to settle? that's what i would do... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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If I were her I'd adopt as a single. My sister went through that period. She was in her early 30's, no marriage prospects, working with babies during the day and just absolutely desolate wanting a child. She ended marrying a guy after a 6 week engagement--sweet guy, but very, very dim and not able to hold down a job. Of course two years later they divorced and she became a single mom. It just seems like it would be easier to adopt (or do DS) and then see how it plays out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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