UrbanBaby

07.15.08, 10:23 AM New York City
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What are some of the methods recommended in books to basically sleep train a two year old? DD only falls asleep if I lay down on the bed with her. If I leave she throws up. DH is anti CIO (hence the situation we are now in), but I'm open to approaches. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.15.08, 10:23 AM Flag

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:42 AM Flag

honestly - i cannot imagine any way you can do this without some sort of CIO [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:45 AM Flag

there is the no-cry sleep solution which i think basically has you move gradually from lying down with the child to sitting near the bed, to sitting near the door, to sitting outside the room until you don't have to sit there anymore. someone also once recommended "the sleep whisperer" or some such thing to me but i know nothing about it. good luck. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:50 AM Flag

I tried this and DD would not lie down and screamed. It may be what I should do but there was nothing no cry about it! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:57 AM Flag

yes, i never used this because i felt it just prolonged the agony. leaving the room and letting dd cry it out wasn't painless but it was pretty quick, as opposed to hearing crying night after night. but if your dd is already 2 and used to you staying with her, and if you are anti-CIO, you may want to try it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:58 AM Flag

Yes, DH is anti CIO but I never was. I finally just told him he can put her to bed every night or work on a solution. All kids cry sometimes at bed time, whether you are with them or not. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:01 AM Flag

I would not use CIO and I reccommed The Babywhisperer Solves All Your Problems book by Tracy Hogg. There is a Babywhisperer website too. GL [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:48 AM Flag

^there will be some crying but the child isn't left alone to cry and it's very gentle. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:49 AM Flag

The thing is, that I tried her book when DD was an infant and nothing in it every worked for me. I can't remember specifics anymore, but it assumed you had a baby that read the book too. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:56 AM Flag

Oh, you can recommend a CIO solution too. I want to know the different ideas that are out there! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:55 AM Flag

one thing you could try - tell dd you will leave the room but come back to check on her every 3 minutes. after a few nights, make it 5 minutes, then 10 minutes. explain that if she screams for you in between you will not come back - you will come after X minutes only. once she sees that you always come back, she may start to fall asleep on her own. i do this with mine (now at the 10 minute mark) and she is asleep at leats 80% of the time by the first time i check on her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:00 AM Flag

also, you can give her something of yours to hold - mine likes to have a shirt of mine in her bed. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:01 AM Flag

OP. That's good, I'll give her something. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:02 AM Flag

OP. This is a new one for me. I have not heard it. Thanks. Maybe by night six she won't be throwing up! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:02 AM Flag

np -- I did this and it worked. It took a couple of weeks, but it works. But your dh can't run in as soon as your dd starts to scream. And the first night she will. but you will only be gone for one minute at first, so she won't be screaming for long. I started with one minute, then 3, then 5. And when you do go back in, make it clear to her that you came back b/c the minute was over and you are doing what you said you would do, not b/c of the screaming. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:06 AM Flag

wasn't this one of the methods in the no-cry sleep solution? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:13 AM Flag

i just made it up, didn't read it in any book. we did cio with dd when she was younger but a few months ago, when i went back to work after birth of second baby, she started having trouble falling asleep. so i tried this and its worked pretty well. not 100%, but pretty well. i do that and give her something and i think both things together help. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:06 AM Flag

also, the first few times she may try to stay awake just to see if you will come back. but eventually it will work. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:09 AM Flag

Okay, I'll talk to DH about this one. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:12 AM Flag

good luck! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:13 AM Flag