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07.15.08, 09:43 AM General Topics
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3.5 y.o dd started a new camp a few weeks ago and hates it. I found out that an older kid there has been teasing her. Head Counselor is very blase but dd has regressed a bit bec. of this. thinking of pulling her out. Overreacting? Any BTDTs? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.15.08, 09:43 AM Flag
 

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Did you call the couselor to talk about it? What specifically is older kid saying to dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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OP: Thanks for answering. Yes, spoke with the director and she said she spoke to the offenders (a group of older boys). They were calling her not so nice names and teasing her for being younger, blocking her way, etc. She is not the only one they pick on. It is carrying over to her and now she wants me to be with her all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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I think a second call to the director is in order. If it is serious enough that you are considering pulling her out of camp then it is serious enough for the parents of these boys to be called about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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OP: ITA. I asked my daughter if the boys apologized today and she said no. then she said she wanted to play in one area but wouldn't go bec. they were there. I told the director but she thinks we need to stick with it. I have to say that I am not leaning in that direction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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You are sending a bad message to your dd if you pull her out. You need to assure her that the boys got in trouble and wont tease her anymore. Then encourage her to have a good time at camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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Also, don't ask your dd if boys apologized. They are little boys and probably wont but you are testing your daughter's level of misery by questioning her like that. Just tell her to stay away from them and speak up if anything else happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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OP: The camp is tiny and these boys run it. They were blocking her today from going anywhere. i got there early and saw for myself. Counselors nowhere to be seen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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What camp is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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sounds like there is a supervision problem. i disagree with poster above that pulling dd is sending the wrong message, but i would also try with the director one more time. this is camp, not school -- camp is not obligatory, and while i believe kids need to figure out social situations and issues on their own, your child is still a preschooler -- not a kindergartner -- and is in need of some adult intervention here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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OP: I kept waiting for that today and what I observed didn't make me want to keep her there. As for refund -- I don't even care. I learned a lesson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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OP: I tried that but to no avail. I just don't think a 3year old should have to go through this. She loves her school and is fine there. It's this group of kids and the too laid back counselors. I don't think it is a bad message to actually listen to her, but I totally understand where you are coming from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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How many more weeks is camp? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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OP: 2 - so I figure what the hell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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I pulled my ds out of his camp. It was a rougher group of kids than he's used to and he was miserable. Definitely regressed a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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IMHO I think that not pulling her out sends a bad signal! Plus, I think you can make a case that a refund is in order due to the fact that this camp has clearly become a "hostile" enviroment for dd. This is complete bullshit. My dd was taking an afterschool class and she kept saying that she didn't want to go - after a few minor investigations on my part it came to light that one of the kids was bullying the other kids, one kid wet his pants he was so terrified. I apologized profusly to dd and got her the hell out of there ASAP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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^^ my dd was also 3 years-old when this happened and the parents of the bully kid did absolutely nothing to make him stop and actually did the opposite. This kid was really aggresive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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OP: This is how I feel today. I feel awful that I MADE her go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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OR: don't feel awful. You were operating as best you could based upon the information you have. I understand that argument about the "wrong signal" but your dd is only 3 yo and is not equipped to deal with older, bullying kids. FWIW, my ds has a SEIT who was at the camp with him -- at first she didn't want to take him out b/c of the "wrong signal" argument, but after a couple wks decided that it was best to take him out b/c of the negative environment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Refund talk might make counselors act. Also, gang up with parents of other children bothered by this and make a group effort. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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