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07.14.08, 18:14 PM General Topics
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For the first time in 6.5 years of her life I full out hollered at my dd. She kept asking me to come upstairs and read to her or sit in her room or cuddle again, and full out roar. Am I a bad mom - was it awful...I never did that before. She is upstairs now, and its silent...should I check on her? Maybe its good that she has a little fear of me??? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.14.08, 06:14 PM Flag

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:16 PM Flag

op-didnt what? and if i go up my toddler will want out of his room.. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:17 PM Flag

she is 6 years old right? maybe she just needed a little extra love tonight. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:19 PM Flag

op-its every night, every meal, every outfit, every single thing we do...negitiation - and more more more. tonight we went outside in the yeard, playing with the family. she wants to go and walk around the block. i said now, we can stay out - but not walk around the block as i was tired...but she just kept whining and whining..its with everything. i am really frustrated and spent by days end...what do i do???? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:21 PM Flag

then maybe she needed a good yelling enough is enough [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:23 PM Flag

go upstairs. it doesnt sound like her behaviour was inappropriate, just annoying. save the hollering for when she endangers herself or others. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:16 PM Flag

No. Yelling is not great, but I have done it a few times. It actually was very effective, hate to say. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:16 PM Flag

op-i feel a thousand times better in some way and she needs to get the point that she can't negotiate everything. every meal, every trip, every outfit, every minute is a negitiation - when does it end, and how? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:18 PM Flag

When she is 25! Set your boundaries with her and stick to it. I find silence works better. I teach middle schoolers and silence them into silence. It's amazing. However, I did raise my voice at 3yo dd last night. It just happens. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:22 PM Flag

op-so should i go upstairs and check on her - or stay down here and make my point. maybe now she will listen better? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:24 PM Flag

I'd leave her. She's old enough to follow up in the morning. If you go back, she'll just get what she wants. I'd say that you screamed because you need her to do x, y and z at bedtime and that you expect that from now on. You might apologize for screaming but make sure the emphasis is the change in her behavior. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:29 PM Flag

^^^fyi, I had a similar conversation with a student that pushed me a bit too far this year. It is not always bad to have conflict if you can model to them an effective way to resolve it. Everyone learns something. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:30 PM Flag

op-THANK YOU SO MUCH. I'll hang tight down here...she is just so damn quiet up there - no crying,nothing...wierd. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:31 PM Flag

Good luck. She is probably asleep! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:33 PM Flag

did your mom yell at you? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:22 PM Flag

op-my entire childhood and did far worst then that. that is why in 6.5 yrs i never did it once until tonight [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:23 PM Flag

you turned out ok, yes? Your dd will be fine. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:24 PM Flag

op-thank you. i second guess every minute where i am not "perfect for her" - just cause i had/have it so bad with my mom. [ Reply | More