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07.14.08, 14:42 PM Toddler
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I don't quite know how to articulate this, but I'll try. I feel like my nanny doesn't like it when I'm around. It's natural that when I'm around, my dd will be a bit less likely to listen to her, and also of course tries to get away with more. But I expect that, and when it's necessary, like she has to go to sleep or eat, I defer to the nanny. But sometimes like today, I'm home and trying to play with my dd, and the nanny is calling her to eat, even though I'm leaving in a few mins and dd doesn't want to go. Then, she suggests toys that she can play with in her room, in what seems like an attempt to get her away from me. I am sure I am exaggerating this in my mind, but in a sense, I feel like my nanny is competing with me for my own child. Anyone else have this experience? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.14.08, 02:42 PM Flag
 

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you have to get over it. You are the mommy. She is the nanny. Your dc loves both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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op: Oh, I have no doubt about what my child feels. It's more the annoying passive aggressive stuff from my nanny that irritates me. It seems she would want to encourage the child to be with her mom/dad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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you have to look at it from her point of view. Her boss was there and she was showing that she had a routine and control of the situation. No big deal really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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sounds more like she is trying to distract dd from you, which she probably feels compelled to do because you are after all paying her to take care of dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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op: that's a useful perspective. Another situation that occurred recently was me asking my child while we were out if she would like to come home and be with us or go to the park with the nanny. My dd hesitated, and the nanny started showing her toys and saying you could come to the park and play with this stuff. I just thought it was strange that she would try to influence her choice, but I guess she might be thinking that I would prefer to be at home on my own doing work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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Yes, you do pay her to take care of your child and that is what she is trying to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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WOHM here and you have to understand your nanny has her most of the time. She keeps her to an eating sleeping schedule, she needs the DC to stick to that because it is good for dcs to have consistency. When I stayed at home that us how I felt when Dh would come home late and want to disrupt the dcs schedule. The nanny is doing her job and you are getting in the way of her doing it. Try to compromise and give this woman the respect she has due to her and defer to the schedule she has cerated for your dc to properly care for her in your absence [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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