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07.14.08, 14:36 PM General Topics
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It's your toddler's nap time. What would you do if you find your toddler's nanny sound asleep in the kid's bedroom (laying in the adjacent bed)? And you find out this has happened repeated times. Do you think this is acceptable? What would you tell her? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.14.08, 02:36 PM Flag
 

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of course it is fine for your nanny to take a nap at the same time in the same room as your toddler. I'm a great mom and do it all the time. You can't hold her to a higher standard than I hold myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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really? I am not paid to nap at my job -while is it ok for someone's nanny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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sorry -i meant "why", not "while" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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np; but what was the arrangement? Is she to clean while he sleeps? How about those nannies that shop while pushing their charge? They aren't paid to do personal shopping but still do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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why wouldn't you want your nanny refreshed and in a great mood when your toddler wakes up? If you want to be "paid to nap" then may I suggest you change careers? You sound like a total B(&ch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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Why isn't it? You would rather she be tired and cranky with your child? Taking care of a toddler all day is tiring. A nap is great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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I'm not a nanny, I'm a sahm. I know how hard it is. A nap does us both good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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But you do get to go out for lunch (by yourself) and I'm sure you have other perks. Jobs are different. Apples and organges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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what is she supposed to be doing -- sitting with her ear to the monitor, staring into space? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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no, organizing the kids closet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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and moving the barbells to the attic and working on the slipping transmission. Give her a break. taking care of children is exhausting and she's probably a better nanny and is more diligent and kind and loving with your DC when they awaken. When you invite someone in to take care of your most precious thing, you should treat them with a little love as well. It goes a long way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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you are preaching to the choir. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I don't have an issue with her getting shut eye while my dc naps. As long as she's not sleeping and dc is up running around alone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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I agree. Why would this be an issue if dc is also asleep? (I'm assuming that she's not responsible for cleaning or is finishing all her other responsibilities) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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op: yea, she holds other responsibilities (and she agreed to) like light clean up. I have asked her to do other things on nap time but I find that unless I insist she won't do them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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then that's an issue for you to discuss and if she doesn't agree then she needs to be let go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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is the house clean when you get home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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no, that's my point. She is not doing what I asked her to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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Then if she's not doing what she agreed to do, and I hope you're being reasonable with your definition of light cleaning, then it has nothing to do with the naps, it has to do with her not doing her job. You sound fixated on the naps, when that's really not the issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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op: oh, she IS sleeping. I've caught her sound asleep and what bothers me is that she acts like nothing happened. She could have at least asked me if I mind her doing that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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you have caught her sleeping while your dc is up and about alone in the house? That would bother me but if she napped while he napped..I'm ok with that as long as she gets up with dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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No, as far as I know she is not asleep with kid roaming around - so that's good.I guess what bothers me is that she didn't mention to me and while I expect that she is doing some house fixing, she is napping! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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does she need to mention how long she spends in the bathroom each day too? You've never answered if she is keeping the house straightened. If she is, then you should stop gripping and wanting her to do even more. She's got a lot on her hands with cleaning and taking care of DC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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op answered above that she is not doing all the jobs she agreed to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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yes, as a backup so she didn't sound like a loon. If you read the op it has nothing about housework and everything about naps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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Are you serious? You are way too controlling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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you don't dictate every moment of her day. It's ridiculous to assume she would ask permission for something that is not impeding her doing her job. I'm glad you're not my boss, because you sound very micromanaging. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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I'm with the op at being shocked at this. I would not expect a nanny to be napping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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op: I already said this, but I'll answer your question again: no, the house is not clean when I get home. She picks the toys up, yes. But light house clean up: no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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did she think that you meant tby light clean up that she would clean up after dc? Most nannies I know only clean stuff related to childcare (ie the dishes from lunch, dcs cloths, toys) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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Well by light clean I mean vacuuming the areas where my kid hangs out: her room, bathroom and den once a week. Keeping her bathroom clean as well (once a week light clean as I already have a housekeeper that does the thorough clean up). Keep her closet (toys, clothing) organized. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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has this been clearly spelled out to her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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honestly you sound pretty controlling, and she sounds very laid back; it may just not work out between the two of you because your styles don't work out, but that does not mean she's a bad nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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well maybe that's the case. She is very nice with my kid and she loves her, which is why I still use her. But find her lack of "proactiveness" in other fronts really frustrating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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She's not the maid and the expecatation that she organize your dc's closet if a bit over the top. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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it sounds like you have a jem of a nanny, she's just not type A enough to meet your expectations of household cleanliness. This is probably not going to change. So if you can't handle it, you need a new nanny, but keep in mind that a more type A nanny will probably treat dd like a job, and not love her nearly as much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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^^^ this from a sahm that rarely vacuums or organizes closets as much as I try;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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yes... it was clear from day one and i remind her that once a week she has to vacuum -but i have found out she just doesn' do it -or she does it like, once every three weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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you need a maid, my dear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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I know of a nanny who was caught sleeping by the Mom but the child had woken up and got into all sorts of things. The nanny didn't think she had done anything wrong. She was fired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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happens all the time here. I think it's fine. why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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