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07.14.08, 12:57 PM General Topics
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dh is up for partner at his firm, but his most recent criticism during his review was that he needs to 'close the loop' on his projects. ever since he told me this, i notice it EVERYWHERE in his life! it totally dilutes the good work he does! for example: will hang a picture but leave the hammer sitting out; will make a great bbq but leaves the tools outside and grill not covered; will make me a drink but leave the bottle on the counter. it's making me crazy and I want to tell him but I'm afraid he'll get defensive. but honestly, i'm afraid it's going to seriously hinder his career if this is the type of s**t he's pulling on the job. Thoughts?? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.14.08, 12:57 PM Flag

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i think that you are overreacting and that this is a great way to get into a fight about a bottle on the counter. seriously, i would not equate the two. not in the least. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:00 PM Flag

i think it sounds like he has mild ADD [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:01 PM Flag

not sure that it's add---more like the lazy gene from his sorry-ass family. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:02 PM Flag

np - wow, even more issues coming out.... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:05 PM Flag

oh puh-leze, his family will always be an issue. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:05 PM Flag

perhaps, but the problem is that you inject it into unrelated issues. i doubt his "sorry-ass family" has anything to do with his recent review or partnership prospects. grow up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:07 PM Flag

np - ita. op sounds dreadful. her dh should leave her and be happy with his life in a way she'll never allow him to be [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:11 PM Flag

well, so he is a slob. What does that have to do with him closing the loop professionally? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:02 PM Flag

I can just picture him doing a great job on something, and then he doesn't send that summary email, or make that follow-up phone call, or schedule a meeting. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:03 PM Flag

that's quite a jump. Apples and oranges. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:06 PM Flag

My dh does all of the things you mention and more but is not like this at work. I'm not sure the two are connected. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:03 PM Flag

really? that makes me feel slightly better... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:04 PM Flag

Same with my dh. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:14 PM Flag

ditto. I thought all men were like this, actually. I think dh used to be like this professionally, but got called on it and fixed the problem. Unfortunately, still like this at home. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:28 PM Flag

maybe he's used to people cleaning up after him [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:05 PM Flag

I thought of this too. I've made a conscious decision NOT to pick anything up. I wonder if maybe some of his staff might be doing the same??? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:06 PM Flag

you sure are projecting a lot of your own s**t onto his office relationships! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:07 PM Flag

that was my thought. At home OP seems to be cleaning up after him. I don't know how this can compare to what he's doing on the job. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:07 PM Flag

you're dangerously close to piling on here at a very tense moment in your husband's life. Do not interpret his review at work as an invitation to point out his flaws and then, btw, if you don't listen to us, you'll never make partner and we'll be poor forever and all those years you spent working your butt off at the firm will be wasted. Don't go there. Do the opposite. Cheer him on and make him feel good as he heads into the final lap of this important career milestone. If you don't support him unequivocally, he will feel doubly let down. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:06 PM Flag

valid point... thx. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:08 PM Flag

ITA - be supportive now or you will regret it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:14 PM Flag

you sound awful. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:07 PM Flag

Only few become partner. Looks like your DH will miss the boat. So close! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:08 PM Flag

mean and not funny at all. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:11 PM Flag